I do that as well. You way of typing is the most off-base of the world.
I do that as well. You way of typing is the most off-base of the world.
Obsequium amicos, veritas odium parit
Mother TEresaOriginally Posted by Joy
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Could be, but its' my logic, I can't describe with words everything :wink:Originally Posted by FDG
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Originally Posted by FDG
Are you sure? Most ENTJs that I know breath fire when they are threatened.
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Uhh...you said when reality is "too harsh".Originally Posted by Dioklecian
I do that when I feel like no matter what I do, there is no exit.
You're correct, when people threathen me I react very stongly.
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I see what you mean, it makes a lot of sense.Originally Posted by FDG
What sort of values does your ISFJ mom advocate for you?
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She never preached morals to me. I guess I just respected them without her openly stating them?Originally Posted by Dioklecian
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Yes, this type of thing depends on the individuals involved and to some degree on the inter type relationship.
What morals and values would you say she practices?Originally Posted by FDG
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Specific morals and values will differ per individual. An ISFj raised in another culture will have different values. ISFjs are generally concerned with what they percieve to be their society's ethical norms (or perhaps what they learned growing up if it doesn't match their current surroundings). ISFjs are all about "should's" and "supposed to's". ISFps are not.
ISFPs are imoral, they don't really respect ethics if they can get way with it.Originally Posted by Joy
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No.
From the thread about which philosopher you are like...
Originally Posted by Cone
Plato is INTJ,Originally Posted by Joy
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Irrelevant. The purpose of that post was to demonstrate how the attitudes of an ISFp differ from that of an ISFj.
My mother does not inflict a moral set of values instead she places obligations. Which are worse, much worse, because they are fully checked by society. She also ignores moral standarts (but respects leagal ones).Originally Posted by Joy
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The obligations are a direct result of the morals.My mother does not inflict a moral set of values instead she places obligations.
I don't know, I'm too used to it, I don't even notice. I actually used to take for granted that all girls had to behave morally.Originally Posted by Dioklecian
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Not for ISFPs they make up obligationsOriginally Posted by Joy
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That doesn't sound like an ISFp. I can't stand to place obligations on people or burden them with things. I just don't do it unless I'm desperate and/or very very stressed.Originally Posted by Dioklecian
The way you described your mom, I can't imagine her being an ISFp. If she is, she's an unhealthy one as Joy said.
ISFp, SiFe, , or SEI....whatever we're calling ourselves these days.
Your mother has borderline personality disorder, which has nothing to do with type.Originally Posted by Dioklecian
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Agreed. Regardless of the BPD symptoms, however, she still doesn't sound ISFp. I've never heard of an ISFp that doesn't like to act goofy/silly at least some of the time.
Actually she is TOO good unfortunatelyOriginally Posted by Elizabeth
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Not at all, BPD is an ESFP thing, she has codependency issuesOriginally Posted by FDG
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I wishOriginally Posted by FDG
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Sure she does but she doesn't want you to call her on that. Praise as I said is the key word. Do you like praise Joy? Or do you like pleasure more?Originally Posted by Joy
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I would say that ISFJ are much more keen on individual freedom (of a kind)Originally Posted by Joy
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NO. Any type can be borderline. BPD is characterized in part by dependency/codependency issues.Originally Posted by Dioklecian
Praise from who about what? What kind of pleasure?Originally Posted by Dioklecian
Where are you getting this information?Originally Posted by Dioklecian
Originally Posted by Joy
Any kind of praise, any kind of pleasure.
Where are you getting this information? [/quote]Originally Posted by Dioklecian
Olga, I asked what moral values she would instill in me if I were her son, she said be yourself. She doesn't conpletely mean it, but I know what she has in mind (my grama was ISFJ).
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Okay this is the bottom line. Your mom is very unhealthy. You don't want to admit it because you love her and you would rather blame her problems on a "type", something that's not er fault. The problem is not her type, regardless of what that type is. The problem is her low sense of self-worth. She is controlling and emotionally manipulative and codependent because she fears that if she is not, the people who are important to her won't love her and will leave. THAT is why she needs to be needed.
When ISFps have a low sense of self-worth, they are more likely to hurt themselves than they are to hurt others, IMO. I know an ISFp who cuts herself, tries to kill herself, gets in and stays in relationships with controlling/abusive men (I think she likes comforting emotionally needy men, and it backfires on her because she chooses the WRONG guys), and almost never stands up for herself. She's also and substance abuse issues and issues with food. So pretty much... she doesn't attack others... she attacks herself.
On the praise and pleasure thing, many types of praise make me uncomfortable. If it's someone I know and feel very comfortable with, I like most compliments, but don't feel that they are necessary most of the time (except my partner... but it's not exactly a compliment, it's more like expressing appreciation). If someone who I don't feel totally comfortable with wants to compliment me, I am flattered if it is one of the following things:
-interesting
-clever and
-smart
-intelligent
-knowledgable
-amusing
-fun
-funny
-easy to talk to
I do my best to politely accept compliments about my appearance but secretly think less of the the person who gave me that compliment.
I <3 pleasure. Sex, drugs, alcohol, great food, relaxation, massages, etc.
How is "interesting" ?
But, for a certainty, back then,
We loved so many, yet hated so much,
We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...
Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
Whilst our laughter echoed,
Under cerulean skies...
Why is that?Originally Posted by Joy
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Joy remeber my pms ok? I think that you might be the one making the mistake here :wink:Originally Posted by Joy
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because it's all about possibilities. <3Originally Posted by gilligan87
Because I hate being judged for my appearance. In all honesty, it's a self-worth issue. I feel threatened when others appreciate my outward appearance because to me it threatens my intellectual/mental worth and other abilities unrelated to my face or body. If my outward appearance is my most valuable trait, I'm really not worth much of anything.Originally Posted by Dioklecian
A mistake about what? I answered your questions honestly.Originally Posted by Dioklecian
Do you mind if they say that someone else is more sexy than you?Originally Posted by Joy
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I mean regarding typing.Originally Posted by Joy
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Typing who? The ISFp I know? No... I am certain of her type.
Typing yourself I mean, go get a prefessional test done.Originally Posted by Joy
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