Originally Posted by
VixenDogFox
That is not at all why I "changed" types. Assuming I changed two types because someone told me to even though I pre-empted this (practically) by saying I DID NOT change them because she said so, is giving away your short-sidedness Jarno.
I was just reading about one of the things I find interesting (personality type) and I had absolutely no inkling that Maritsa could be right about our types. I actually just allowed myself to be open to the idea and it happened to fit better than anything else has.
And I did not purposely type my boyfriend and me as dual types.
INTj was a typing done by someone else for him, over the internet. But it never fully fit. Now that I read the ENFp profiles and think of him, it is incredibly fitting. But he is a pretty quiet one. He has a huge circle of friends, and he is always the center of attention, and he is more effervescently creative than anyone I have ever known. He has zero interest in technical things, he is no good (can't stand) planning, and hates to clean. That is not all why I think he is ENFp, but those are some obvious correlative traits.
I know you won't believe me, but you really don't know me in real life so you cannot possibly type me correctly.
Look, the first type I ever thought I was was ISTP (Myers Briggs which doesn't apply), then I thought I was ENFp. Then ISFp. But that never fit me either because I am much harsher internally than that, and my temper is really ridiculous though I hate to let go emotionally.
I know I am Si, that's for sure. But don't think I can't be demonstrative nor enthusiastic, especially in writing, and be SLI. The descriptions say SLI's can be "chatterboxes". I have many interests and I go back and forth between them at will, obsessing over various ones for a few weeks at a time. I have held 17 different jobs. I still can't decide what I want to do...
It's not so weird that I would be a P temperament as most of my adult life I have identified with that. It is only in the last year to year and a half that I decided I was J.
I go around feeling logical and detached from people but incredibly attached to the physical world. I sometimes like animals far more than people. I rate my physical comfort as #1. There are a lot of reasons I believe I am SLI. I am at the point now where I care VERY LITTLE about whether my boyfriend and I are duals; we are so happy now and have dealt issues I have *ahem* mentioned and things are great. So personality types could be nonexistent.
In high school, I was extremely sullen and had no friends. I walked around hating the world. I think this is important to remember. I always avoided this fact but it is very true.
It's just so hard for people online who don't know people in real life to give a good typing.
Another problem with me: I have always felt like somewhat of a chameleon, someone who is changeable depending on the circumstances. People believed I was ESE so I felt like one to a certain extent. But I FINALLY, and I mean FINALLY feel that I have found my real type.
Also: remember when I felt Bullets & Doves was attacking someone? And I exploded on him? That is very typical of me, and typical of SLI's, to defend their friends if being attacked in a very dramatic and quick manner.
Also, there have been ENFp's on this site who have thought I was SLI and felt I was their dual. I ignored that possibility. But I really think it's true.
Not all SLI's are succinct all the time. Often they can overdo the details, which I do. A lot.
Also, I am not conflict avoidant. That's something I've always felt uncomfortable with in Alpha SF descriptions. I'm actually quite contentious, as my SLE dad loves to remind me. I enjoy argument in many situations and my boyfriend is constantly telling me I take apart arguments of others better than anyone he knows.
And finally, VI. I never felt I really LOOKED ESE. I kept trying to. I'd look in the mirror, then at all the pictures of ESE's, and I'd try to see the similarities. I would try to MAKE it true. But I DO look like MANY SLI's. I've been told I look like the girl from Bladerunner, like Dita Von Teese, like Meryl Streep, etc. And I personally see a resemblance.
I know I cannot convince most of you. I don't need to though. I will feel I am this way until I don't. Period. ;-P
Of course I don't. I did not change both our types because I think we are duals. It truly happened organically.