Let me try to describe you my sister in angered situation; she will watch her husband yell and she will stand there and only provoke more emotions to come out by saying things that are out of place or pushing the envelope on a emotionally fragile topic, but she doesn't realize what she's doing. Substitute me, I will say calmer things to subdue those presented emotions in the person I am interacting with where I notice I have raised their emotion by a word or comment that I have made.
"I hate funerals. :-p I remember this one funeral in particular where I was really trying hard not to lose it, because I hardly knew the people involved .. lol.. and I felt like I was kinda disrespecting the family who was truly grieving by crying myself, even though I couldn't help it."
Comedy and tragedy...all interplay into one. Disrespect is the traditional nature in you. Being presented things or noticing things that are presented in the reasonable way is an influence of Te in the 3rd function.
"ESEs feel a need to appear efficient, productive and knowledgeable [ I would add reasonable because of the logic of Te] in their endeavours, as long as that does not conflict with priorities set up by their base function, extroverted ethics. For instance, they may end up defending a decision or action, even if it is not the most efficient, if it's the one they see as most desirable in order to achieve or maintain the emotional atmosphere they are aiming at (for instance, not be seen as hostile to a given person or group). They are able to participate in discussions involving exchange of factual information, or involving decisions as to the most efficient actions to take, for relatively short times; their inclination is to either try to lighten up the atmosphere if they see it becoming too heavy, or to become emotionally agitated, revealing their frustration. In such situations, if attempts by the ESE to lighten up an atmosphere they see as too "business-like" are met with factual counter-arguments, the ESE tends to perceive that as emotional hostility and react accordingly."
Ps...Mom is mistyped. And, there is no ESE on the pole, what happened?