please bear with me regarding these SLI questions, everyone...
would you describe SLIs as "sweet" in relationships? Would they, deep down, ever consider themselves as being "softies"? Like say if they had daughters?
please bear with me regarding these SLI questions, everyone...
would you describe SLIs as "sweet" in relationships? Would they, deep down, ever consider themselves as being "softies"? Like say if they had daughters?
IEI-Fe 4w3
I wish I knew. . .
However, i did see a photo of the SLI i knew, at a wedding, "dancing" with 2 little girls probably around 7 or 8 years old, holding their hands. It was so adorable! (and I never expected that from him). So I guess my answer is yes. . .
p.s. and yes, again, I admit I am a facebook stalker
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
I'm a sweetie deep down.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
My husband is a complete pushover with our girls. He is definitely a softie, and I am the disciplinarian. As far as discipline goes, as we are light in that department.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
I get the impression that Fi HA would cause ISTps to want to be softer and more emotionally open, but they generally don't know how. Maybe?
All the SiTe I've had close enough experiences with are huge softies in the side, they are absolutely adorable and thoughtful... Once you reach that stage with them. You are either very lucky and caught one's imagination and they already start to act tender towards you (super rare) or after you win gold in all Olympic feats (only half sarcastic here ), then this very tender and loyal side comes out. Both SiTe I've been involved with told me they usually avoid relationships because it takes up half of their mind, and it distracts them from things they need to do. I found this funny because I always have my relationships churning in my head, so when a new one arrives, I can still maintain all of my other obligations outside of my social life.
very interesting. hmmmm. thank you everyone for your input.
IEI-Fe 4w3
I am a pushover, complete and utter pushover. That would, sadly, be me. I fear that sometimes (like never, ever, ever) won't be able to put down the law for them. I think I will be very forgiving and very warm to a fault. I don't have the heart to "punish" my kids. I will send my kids email messages with little slogans to be conscientious about their actions. I will probably start crying myself...argggg. I can see myself telling my husband to be gentle all the time.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Yeah shortly after I posted that I started remembering all the multitude of ways I'm IEE.
I suppose what look.to.the.sky wrote about inability to multitask relationships probably isn't type related, or can occur to either dual (SLI or IEE). Or maybe I can multitask it better than I think I can.
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
I think you're most likely able to multitask with relationships better if you're NeFi (prolly FiNe too, I haven't really looked into the other types). Because when you're NeFi, you are constantly noticing a processing information that relationships are a subset of already, so an NeFi would already be churning around that sort of information when a relationship comes to fruition.
My claim isn't whether a person allows the relationship to take over their lives or not. That's more of a maturity issue. And constantly thinking about the relationship isn't the claim either. It's just how a relationship changes how you live. In my personal experience (not type related maybe?) I can easily factor others into my day-to-day life if they are important enough. In my brain, I just instantly know where I have wiggle room to do things for others, or to see them. What changes in my life is WHO I focus that on. The norm (only recently) is focused on me, then when someone is of interest, say I haven't seen them in a while, they've had a really rough week, or they are my boyfriend, that focus changes to accommodate that.
I think this is type-correlative more than anything, but all the SiTe could improve with their relationship management comparatively to me This goes for other types as well, I sometimes have issues with my NeTi best-friend. It isn't until the relationship is considered a commitment/responsibility that the SiTe I've been close with put in a significant amount of focus. And once they are in the relationships they are (at least recently, I can't really speak of their past) loyal to death. And that can even be a detriment, because I see them being taken advantage of and then them being scarred and never wanting to enter a relationship again
Leon, from The professional, gives you a good idea on the real nature of SLIs. They are quite soft hearted, generally speaking, though they rarely allow others get close enough to realize it. However, if someone "touches their soul", it will become very evident.
ILIs are very similar by the way. Both are a treasure to have as friends.
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You know what? You're an individual, and that makes people nervous. And it's gonna keep making people nervous for the rest of your life. - Ole Golly from Harriet, the spy.
Mikemex, I like your sig. I loved that book as a kid!
IEI-Fe 4w3
[] | NP | 3[6w5]8 so/sp | Type thread | My typing of forum members | Johari (Strengths) | Nohari (Weaknesses)
You know what? You're an individual, and that makes people nervous. And it's gonna keep making people nervous for the rest of your life. - Ole Golly from Harriet, the spy.
My dad, who I guess is SLI, is that way, too. He is a quite soft person, even at the outside, and often had not the heart to forbid something. He actually was less demanding than my (probably) EII mum.
This is very interesting, Redbaron, because I always thought my dad is a `typical` SLI, but apparently many SLIs seem to give an other impression... (At the outside at least... (?)) It would be interesting to hear your experiences with them, if you don`t mind. If you don`t feel comfortable answering, just ignore my questionplease bear with me regarding these SLI questions, everyone...
would you describe SLIs as "sweet" in relationships? Would they, deep down, ever consider themselves as being "softies"? Like say if they had daughters?
Oh, ok. I assumed your question is caused of some impressions you got...