Right. But I mentioned this because I see at hopeless no matter what you do as long as she is insane. And I see hurting her as a way to possibly make her insanity worse. And honestly how she treats you just isn't okay, but if she's not of sound mind she might not be able to help it, but still by allowing it to continue you're letting her hurt you and so the reasons why she's doing it are less important than that she is doing it.