Stages of Duality in the Alpha Dyads

[Krig the Viking]

Because I have a fetish for all things converse, inverse, and contrapositive:

"Love sounds strangely like duality."

This.

Crap, I think I met a dual . I randomly met her last thursday when she popped into the office and automatically liked the girl. My SLE/EIE/ESE/whatever friend invited her to a party and at first she was kind of reluctant since she doesn't drink anymore since she got AP about a year back. Then I was all, "Aw, you could still come and hang out though. It'll be fun!" and we sort of made full on eye contact and something inexplicable twisted inside (like omg this girl is not like every other girl I've met) and she grinned, shrugged in an over the top way and said maybe. I wasn't holding my breath since she had a bf.

And she SHOWED, sans boyfriend. I almost spat beer when she walked through the door. Honestly though lol, I immediately went into shy mode, but we kept making eye contact and I was reasonably not sober so I said fuck it and plopped next to her and made retarded small talk. Stupid things like, "So where do you work? I haven't seen you around before" which was deep down my way of trying to figure out a way to see her again. She kept getting annoyed that her friend was texting her to make sure she wasn't "making bad decisions" *exaggerated wink at me* and I just shrugged, smiled, and said it was awesome to have friends that look out for you. At about that point I got drafted into a flip cup game and by the time it was over she was nowhere to be seen. That was when some kind of hilarious guy I work with told me my girl left and I was all, "Who? You mean A" and he retorted "Yeeeeeep".

Then apparently I did more drunk texting than I thought because my friend that threw the party was telling me today that I sent him something along the lines of "idc if she has a bf, A was banging. She's got that sexy librarian thing going on".

So which, if any, of the stages there would you say you experienced? It rather sounds like you're already experiencing Stage 1...

[Fabelie]

These stages of duality almost seem too good to be true. :\ I'm not sure how I feel about this. hmm.

[electric sheep]

I know the first stage really well. It seems to take a bit of intervention or a bit of luck to get past that. Without it, there's just a really loose bond between us that really is there, but it's like every brief contact we have with each other, it's there, it's fantastic, and then it's gone.

[silverchris9]

These stages of duality almost seem too good to be true. :\ I'm not sure how I feel about this. hmm.

Well, it is too good to be true insofar as this doesn't actually happen with most duals. But it does accurately describe a potential development of very very good (ideal?) human relationships, which is most easily (only?) achieved in dual pairs. But no, this isn't going to just magically happen with the first person you find that's the right type, nor is it going to happen immediately; you may know the person, you may even be friends, for a long time before any of the real fireworks happen, and if/when they do, there's no real explanation for why it especially clicks with one dual and not the other. Duality is more of a necessary than a sufficient condition for the sort of relationship described, or, more accurately, duality is one of the factors that makes it especially likely that such a relationship will be achieved, but not the only factor by any means.

[xerx]

I agree with everyone who says it takes work just like every other relationship. Although, with the right dual the work is rather pleasant. I'm not speaking from experience though.

[munenori2]

I'm not speaking from experience though.

Damnit, jxrtes! You better, dude.

[xerx]

Damnit, jxrtes! You better, dude.

Nah! I'm not very much into commitment or any of that fancy relationship stuff.

[munenori2]

Nah! I'm not very much into commitment or any of that fancy relationship stuff.

Buuuuuulllshit

[Khola aka Bee]

These stages of duality almost seem too good to be true. :\ I'm not sure how I feel about this. hmm.

I agree, it sounds like grandiose idealism to me.

[Creepy-male]

I agree, it sounds like grandiose idealism to me.

I've been through this, and not even with a Dual.

[Rubicon]

I've been through this, and not even with a Dual.

You also saw a UFO though.

[Fabelie]

You also saw a UFO though.

lol.

[munenori2]

So which, if any, of the stages there would you say you experienced? It rather sounds like you're already experiencing Stage 1...

1, 3, 5 and a bit of 2.