The way you paint this makes it seem a lot worse...it sounds like criticism an aggressor/victim would have on an infantile/caregiver relationship.
Haha
I disagree with the bolded part. I'm not unwilling to sacrifice someone who doesn't feel the same as me, and I don't feel I'm owed anything either, but I'm allowed to want, right? If it were up to me, (it's not )my SO would need me in some way as well as love me.
I'm NeFi.