doing anything practical that either needs to get done or that the person thinks the other person wants done. In this house it means doing the laundry (and then pointing out how much he did and how he was happy to do it) or cleaning up or running to the dry cleaners when I mention that the sweater I want to wear is still there. Or making dinner. Doing things without being asked. Stuff like that. He used to get up with me in the middle of the night when the twins were babies and change their diapers and get them out of their crib to nurse. Which was totally helpful.