What's the best intertype relation to turn to if you need a shoulder to cry on? Identical? Dual? What if neither of those are available?
a shoulder to cry on
What's the best intertype relation to turn to if you need a shoulder to cry on? Identical? Dual? What if neither of those are available?
IEI-Fe 4w3
Anyone who's kind enough, in my case who is knowledgeable and can help me, preferably someone in your quadra. From my experience, an Fe type has always had a harder time supporting me, because they're more socially scattered.
d00l
Any type will do I suppose, so long as the psychological closeness is there.
Sounds like someone needs a hug...Originally Posted by redbaron
I'm too much of a softy, the type that gets teary seeing other people cry, especially close ones.
Sounds like someone needs a hug...
I'm too much of a softy, the type that gets teary seeing other people cry, especially close ones.yeah, no *I* want to be the one to cry. If the other person cries, that doesn't help any! LOL And actually I guess therein lies the problem: I can't cry in front of anyone I don't feel really really close to. That makes the pool, um, practically non-existent.
Moral of the story: cultivate friendships close enough that you'll have a shoulder to cry on in times of distress. that sounds kinda beta-ish doesn't it. using friends for my own needs.... hmm.
(thanks for the hug)
IEI-Fe 4w3
That's not beta-ish, that's everyone-ish (can't speak for everybody though). It's really hard to find friends like that... I've been realizing how it is to even have close friends. And, you're welcome btw
Moral of the story: cultivate friendships close enough that you'll have a shoulder to cry on in times of distress. that sounds kinda beta-ish doesn't it. using friends for my own needs.... hmm.
(thanks for the hug.
@Director Abbie: I don't think LSE is the worst (not implying ranking here). I would assume that E5s aren't that good at it, or would be uncomfortable by it.
My EII best friend understands me better than anyone in that sense, maybe because we have some of the same issues. She doesn't judge me for all my internal insecurities. If I need someone to pull me out of my head, my SLI and SEE friends do that admirably. SLIs are usually good at countering my negative, self-defeating arguments against why I shouldn't do something. My SEI sister is a really amazing listener as well.
IEE
I completely related to this. It's amazing how negative us IEEs can be, for supposedly being so positive right? lol.
And I agree that anyone with good listening skills would be good. People who use the "active listening" thing. I'd prefer someone who can do that over just a type.
Hi! I'm an ENFP. :-)
I'd say dual, but that may just be because my dual is the EII. IEIs, good luck crying on an SLE's shoulder.
ACTUALLY my SLE sister-in-law would be great for this. But she lives pretty far from me.
IEI-Fe 4w3
Maybe it's a female thing.
I have an LII friend (not Isha) who I can talk to about a reasonable amount of things that get me down. Then there's obviously Isha and Akra. Conclusion: not type related. Why can I talk about more things with one LII over another? Because I'm closer to one than the other.
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I think so. If it isn't random banter (which I'm going to engage in with friends, contacts, associates and acquaintances of either gender), I'll be talking to one of my male friends for advice or to figure something out, or one of my female friends to talk about stuff (though it isn't entirely clear cut; I think F/T has its influence here).
yeah I thought about that too. I guess it's obvious!
IEI-Fe 4w3
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