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Originally Posted by bobbybeam
i deal w/ depression....well, i am very bad at it. it ruins my life! overall i feel very sad and lonely and there is something romantic about it, i feel so deeply and this just surges through my body. the over-all sensation is rather dark and evil and independent and free of everything and everyone...no distractions....i find ways of releasing it (art, poetry, journaling), i find ways of distracting myself (getting high, self-destructing, sometimes drinking), by sleeping a lot, not talking very much, and trying to move around...maybe do some yoga or pilates...get some endorphins pumping into my body.....endorphins help a lot.....and usually my sister...she takes me somewhere and gets me socializing again.
i usually reflect on the world, the destructiveness hahaha all of the negative things about the world; i focus on me and all of the little details about me that i am too busy to usually notice (my character, why i do the things i do), i connect w/ nature a lot more, and the spirit world---the unseen, i notice the little things in other people, an act of kindness, the way the lines wear on someone's face...their story---i see people's eyes, the hurt, the kindness, the stress, the burdens....i see it all and then i feel it deep inside of me.
i hate that i am not talking and caring on w/ others on a more social level, but when i am in this state i feel so much more connected to the human race
The combination of dwelling in your own pain and romanticizing it combined with the fact that you're willing to sit here and describe it all sounds very 4 and not at all 7 to me. However if you talk to a 7 like JRiddy who is so/sx, he's sometimes discussed the idea of connectedness that you just brought up. Kind of indulging in his own phobia to create the sx sense of connectedness. If you ask an so/sp 7 like me I don't think I would ever in a million trillion years feel more connected by being disconnected from the outside world
I guess the underlying question is which of these do you think describes you best, or do neither describe you.
Type 7
Basic Fear: Of being deprived and in pain (more emotional)
Basic Desire: To be satisfied and content—to have their needs
fulfilled
Type 4
Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance
Basic Desire: To find themselves and their significance (to create an
identity)
(From Enneagram Institute)
You can also think of them as 7 being externally focused, turning away from the internal in an attempt to avoid the basic fear of pain and deprivation; and 4 being internally focussed, turning towards the internal in a search for self-discovery.