I agree with all of this, its well written, and pretty comprehensive.
The only thing I would add for the sake of elaboration is that e4's are not simply melancholy for the heck of it, they are likely to be more accepting of all their emotions including darker ones than other types (especially the positive outlook group) that just prefer to steer clear of them unless they are cornered.
The idea for e4's is that when healthy they operate by transforming their negative emotions into something positive and when unhealthy they absorb themselves in them feeling vicitimized. Other types like I said prefer to steer clear of them unless they are cornered, for example a 5 seeks to dull themselves emotionally because they feel it gives them more willpower.
On a large scale e4's fall by feeling victimized and hurt, they re-energize with fantasy, and they transform their negative side by doing something productive (likely creative in nature), then proceed foward until the cycle repeats.
Aye, my scores always have very strong 4 and 9, and then 5, relative to the other types. 1 and 8 tend to be especially low for some reason, is that strange if I am a nine?
If I am a four I am definitely a 4 so/sx based on these descriptions, which I found very revealing. When it comes to four it is exactly the volitility and attachement to melancholy that I find I hard to relate to. I mean I am a romantic in many ways and I am focused probably too much on my feelings and emotions, but I do not go so readily into the negative aspects of them, nor do I EVER throw direct temper tantrums or blow up really - if I blow up it is for like 20 seconds and then people tend to laugh at me grrrr lol
I think I am a mix between 4 and 9.
My comments are bolded below.
What I like the most about the 9 descriptions is the inner harmony and balance. When I want to be by myself this is very much what I strive for even if I can 'wallow' in E4 like emotionality at times certainly. But this darkness aspect described in E4s I relate to very little. I somehow always have a positive outlook. I have never ever considered suicide for example. When I get depressed I go more towards the 'numbness' described in 9 descriptions rather than suicidal despair.
I am not volatile in conflicts, but neither do I shy out of them. I can weather a lot of shit, but I rarely hit out, it will take a lot of pushing of me for that to happen. I strive to keep my temper in check and use reason when I argue, I feel if I lose my head I will only give shit and start to hurt instead of making progress with what needs to be sorted out.
Another thing I find is 9 over 4 is that I tend very much to be in a 'flow', I go where the flow takes me rather than assert myself somehow... and that is probably a VERY 9ish tendency.
Idealized reality for me, I am much more towards Tolkien'style in some aspects than a host of other authors that are more towards horror - never cared for horror or really angsty, depressive neurotic stuff either in literature or art
I have never ever considered suicide, the very thought is extremely alien to me for myself. I could see myself reach such a point possible, but it would be a long and hard road indeed to take me to that point.
I am calm on the outside and optimistic on the inside. I identify strongly with attempting to find inner balance and harmony, but I am not afraid to look inside to find it. I guess I am more disengaged and emotionally inert than the volatile fours at least
Hmm, I have an invisiblity need rather than any illusion about my awesomeness heh
hm not so much the first fear for me, more the second (annoying reality), not so much the third, and very much not the fourth.
Hmm I think the tests have my preferrences pretty accurately it seems. When I read relationship descriptions between 4s and 9s it is VERY clear I fit the 9 side better than the 4 side. I tend to keep cool and to acknowledge the issues but I am slower in the temper swings than the 4s I know. I can withdraw for a bit if I get hurt, but I will come back to deal with what I have processed to heal the wounds, you could say to restore a balance, and move on with a deeper understanding with both.
So, does all this make me a 9?
Last edited by Wittmont; 02-02-2010 at 04:51 PM.
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I think it easily could be. tbh I'm not sure where this idea of 4s virtue being "equanimity" comes from. Maybe the authors suppose that through sifting through their inner volatile worlds, 4s can eventually come to a more balanced state, with regard to both themselves and humanity. But 9 is the type most strongly bent on maintaining a holistic sense of connection with others and their inner worlds; the removal into indolent fantasizing is a last-resort means of preserving said thing. 4s withdraw to amplify their internally-cultivated feelings and self-image; it can sometimes be spawned by others, if they feel rejected and such, but is hardly ever driven by a desire to connect with people (at most, it's about having one person 'get' them).
hm, not to sound stereotypical, but the fact that you've never even considered it -- I wouldn't say it doesn't exactly point to 4 (especially 4w5 sx/sp???). 4s are just naturally attuned to their own despair, and even if not suicidal, will usually end up wallowing in some form of self-loathing desolation. Most 4s in this community feel a bit darker to me, melancholy usually escapes out of certain things they say.I somehow always have a positive outlook. I have never ever considered suicide for example. When I get depressed I go more towards the 'numbness' described in 9 descriptions rather than suicidal despair.
Doesn't necessarily point to 9, but seems out of place for 4. Yes, they "weather a lot of shit," but it's mostly self-induced and partially resultant of the dramatized ideas they have about the world. 9s are types of attrition; they weather things out in an almost lukewarm manner, convinced that it will eventually work out, and that -- in unhealthier cases -- what's happening isn't "real."I am not volatile in conflicts, but neither do I shy out of them. I can weather a lot of shit, but I rarely hit out, it will take a lot of pushing of me for that to happen. I strive to keep my temper in check and use reason when I argue, I feel if I lose my head I will only give shit and start to hurt instead of making progress with what needs to be sorted out.
4w3-5w6-8w7
that's a really good description of my SEI E-9 friend when it comes to dealing with conflict. First, deny. Then ignore. Act like "everything will be fine". Only when pushed further do they stand up to problems in their own silent way, rarely acknowledging the issue verbally to others.
(ANNOYING)
IEI-Fe 4w3
That is totally my SEI boss at at my previous workplace, she denied very real issues and conflicts for ages, then had a really aggressive shadow reaction against one employee (more or less breaking her mentally in the process). But she never acknowledged the issues people had under her and let these issues simmer for a couple of years. All this stressed people to distraction, no matter what they did she just deflected any attempts at dealing with things and sorting them out.
Needless to say this approach was extremely stressful (and annoying) to everyone (including her, she almost quit her job at one point). It is definitely not my approach to dealing with conflicts to so extremely sweep any hint of problems under the rug.
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+1 to Wittmont as 9.
I still feel I am half 4 half 9. SOMEONE SAVE ME.
D-SEI 9w1
This is me and my dual being scientific together
I see your bastard 9/4 cross-breed and raise you my bastard 9/6 crossbreed.
That post you made on Facebook about "If you stop loving you never loved to begin with" or whatever seems very E4. It's just invalidating anything outside some romantic ideal you hold for what "love" is.