Originally Posted by
Cyclops
Another thing I recall from our discussions, marie84, was when we spoke about (I raised the discussion I think) about learning from other types to develop our weak points (in essense, our weak functions).
I made a point (among other things), for instance, that I have at times observed how ESFj's interact and behave to give me pointers to help develop my weak Fe.
Anyway, the idea of personal growth, developing oneself (and socionics can just be a medium for that) was alien to you. You were completely against the idea of developing oneself into a more complete person, being a better more complete person for instance. Your idea was along the lines of, "Why would I or anyone want to develop weaker points in ourselves, why would I want to improve on my weak points". You also were against the idea that we can learn something from all the types, like my example in the second paragraph.
I've never heard of an INFj, a humanist, being against the idea of personal growth, of the potential of people and the ability to become a better person. The idea was foreign to you and you offered no insight or ideas on how one becomes a better person (even without using socionics as a medium), it simply seemed you couldn't understand the idea, and you didn't see value in it.
I've never heard of, or met an INFj who isn't interested in the prospect of people developing themselves, who doesn't have at least something constructive and positive to say about the idea of personal growth, the potential of man (or woman of course), if you will.
It's just another indication that if you are an INFj, you don't fit the descriptions or the valued functions.
You didn't even provide any Fi with Ne within that discussion. An ISTp looking for seeking functions of an INFj, they provide their ego functions as natural.
With all the evidence, it's pretty clear I think to most people with knowledge of the INFj (and delta NF, although ENFp's are certainly interested in personal growth, INFj very much are too), that you just aren't an INFj.
If you provide answers to my points i've raised here about your type and the other posts in this thread about it, and some other things of your own to support the INFj prognosis, then that would be fine, but it isn't shown.
There's nothing wrong with being another type, surely.
Edit: I suppose all I can really ask is that you think about it, ... if you are or aren't an INFj (the latter option seems more likely), it's not going to be the end of the world :-)