thank you, it made my check-ins more worthwhile than had that post been a dud, heh.
just like in Facebook and MySpace, having many people listed on the Friends List doesn't necessarily mean that those people are actually friends. Neither does not having a long list on the friend list mean lacking friends.Yes, I have lots of interrelationships, much more so than Minde and Marie84 as you may observe in my Friends list.
I don't even know who's on my friend list here. I just don't pay that much attention to it. Instead, most of my interactions have been over chat programs, telephone, and email/pms. I'm quite confident that if you were to attempt to judge how much I interact with others on this forum by how many people are on my friend's list, you'd be way off.
In facebook, I keep only my family and the people that I actually want to keep caught up on what they post. If I friended every Tom, Dick, and Harry, the info that matters to me most would get lost in a lot of garbage.
Which is what was happening on another site that I am a member of. Everyone there is friendly, and when people first meet (in person or online), then they ususally friend each other. This makes it easy to see the kinds of posts they make, find any commonalities, etc etc. Some people (usually the Fe valuers it seems) insist that we should all friend everyone in the group. It's almost like a popularity contest for them...something to brag about. (I am not saying that all of them are Fe, nor that all Fe valuers do this...in this site though, it seems to be the most vocal of Fe valuers that treat it this way.) they will even call you out if they discover that you dared to unfriend someone from your list.
The problem though is that some people in the group write close to 20-30 posts a day, post a ton of pics, and comment to yet another ton of pics. All this gets fed into the home page. There is no ability to sort who you're looking for. So your friends...the ones who actually mean something to you...get lost in the shuffle.
Add in that the site's topic is about sexual kink. Yes, I have some kinks, but I don't want to have to wade through a non-friend's comments and pictures about kinks that I, personally, have zero interest in...or worse, that squick me out. So I regularly clean out my friend's list there, ridding it of people that we don't/won't actually interact outside of the gatherings, or the people who's kinks are beyond even my open-mindedness.
Doing this means that I'm choosing what I consider Quality over Quantity.
I have limited focusing ability...why waste my time/energy on things that I don't value? This also means that the people on my list there are people that I'm actually developing relationships with. Depth instead of breadth.
So, I don't see how you having more people on your friend list means that you have more interactons/relationships.
Also, some might even see it as a sign that you are more extroverted than they are.
I didn't suggest that one relationship is more compatibile than the other. Because it would depend on what kind of relationship each is looking for.Are you saying that there's better compatibility between an Fi and Si rather than Fi and Te subtypes?
Someone might very well want a relationship where the roles are clearly defined and/or where "all bases are covered". Someone else might rather have a relationship that is based on working together and/or a certain type of connection. Someone else may even want something completely different.
However, when first meeting a dual, there are at least four ways that the relationship will initiate and progress. Fi/Si, Ne/Te, Si/Ne, and Fi/Te.
I guess I was just trying to point out to you that there is more than one "compatibility", more than one way dual types can find connections with each other.
Saying that something is a better match is a judgment call..comparing the options and choosing one that fits a particular set of criteria. In this particular case, the criteria would depend on the actual persons involved...not a universal set of criteria that would apply to every single person/type.Ahh...so you do say that Te and Ne subs are better matched but how have you considered my contrast with regards to statics and dynamic of the fields of these subtypes and how that contributes to their interaction?
This conversation started because you attempted to push only one of the mentioned four relationships as being the universal one. I was merely trying to point out that there are other fully compatible relationships that did not follow your rule. Which relationship would be best for a particular person or couple would depend on the personalized critera...not some supposed universal rule.
As for the static/dynamics... They would not likely be a way in which the couple could connect...except in a business-like relationship. I didn't claim that the povs I had mentioned were all that were available. I was just trying to show you that there are more than fits your stated rule. My goal was to try to expand your view, not to provide an encompassing set.
If you want to postulate further, adding to the alternatives you may (or may not) now be aware of, then add in the static/dynamic aspect yourself, see how many possible relationship initiations and developments you can come up with that still fits the theory.