Delta Lounge

[Kim]

My father just passed away

I am so so sorry, Maritsa...You were such a loving support to him. I hope you can draw comfort from being with family.

[Adam Strange]

I am very sorry to hear that, Maritsa.

[weirdleftovers]

My father just passed away

So sorry for your loss. (don't mind the smiling emoji's just wanted to give you a virtual hug).

[Aylen]

My father just passed away

Maritsa, I have no words in this moment...

[Reficulris]

My father just passed away

My condolences

[Eliza Thomason]

My father just passed away

I woke up thinking of your father and how your Fathers Day went. I just signed on the computer to ask you that. Wow. He died on Father's Day. He must have seen you all that day . I am so sorry for your loss and the sorrow you and your family are experiencing now. I will pray.

[Minde]

My father just passed away

That is so hard. I'm so very sorry. He meant a lot to you and you put in so much effort caring for him. He felt your love and that's beautiful. But also so very sad.

[Beautiful sky]

Thank you <3

You guys have been so nice in letting me voice my sadness without judging me or stopping me. I appreciate that a lot. I'm grateful for the emotional support that you've given me.

[Minde]

You guys have been so nice in letting me voice my sadness without judging me or stopping me.

If anyone is stifling you or telling you what to feel, they should stop. No one has any right to try to control your emotions or even tell you whether or not to express them. Whatever you're feeling is perfectly acceptable. No one can rightfully judge you in that.

Here's a phrase that was given to me when I suffered a deep loss: "Every lament is a love song."

[Park]

“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”
― Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie

[anndelise]

My father just passed away

No words can express. I hope you and your family find some comfort from family, friends, and positive memories.

[Eliza Thomason]

I feel like chatting about what I am doing and thinking. Besides all the painting and reno I have been and will be completely immersed in.

My husband's daughter send me a text picture this evening of a mug with a saying, "Not a stepmother - a bonus mother". Aw. That was out of the blue. She made my day. She is such a blessing. And we had a rough start, when we really didn't know each other, when Dh and I were distance-dating and planning a future. There was a lot of misunderstanding, with drama, which shattered my calm, and I didn't know what to do. I thank God, Whose hands I put this confusing problem in. I never expected the harmony we have now or that I would come to value her so much - that she would truly feel like "my people", my own family. I feel blessed.

Another thing is on my mind. I have been praying for quite some time that my dear son (SLE, in college) will meet an IEI and experience duality and fall in love ... I pray for this a LOT. And I have more criteria than just IEI for this request, I am embarrassed to admit. I am hoping it happens sometime in college, that's so he does not waste time on wrong types (he has already had long dating relations with various types including his Conflictor and his Supervisee and the latest briefer one was with one I did not meet but I thought she VI'd Delta - and she had some negative Delta-like reactions to a Beta)... Okay, so another criteria in my prayer request is that meeting his Dual soon sounds good to me. Dear son could avoid troubles by being blessed with a dual relationship now - I want him to be blessed with that experience - those relations that just pull you in and improve as they go. He has learned to understand and please a girlfriend (I'm thinking there must be a learning curve when you don't have sisters) - now he can apply that to where its easy and natural! Okay, so I am asking for even more! That she be a practicing Catholic (or at least a very devout Christian) and that they would go to church together, and she can get him thinking about God more than I can see he seems to now. That can happen if a guy is really in love. Finally, because I am bold and I know God really listens, and He doesn't get mad if I ask too much - and knowing He has granted me very detailed requests before, and He could again - I have also been asking that her family be from around here, in this part of my state or near this part of the next state where my son goes to school. That's because my son fell in love with San Diego when he visited last year. That's far! But he (and the happy wife I hope for him) choose to settle far away, having her family near me would assure I would see them as much as possible - and - Lordwilling - grandchildren someday.

Yes, its a pretty detailed fantasy-hope request! But I ask it anyway, knowing God knows that I will accept whatever comes (even if its not what I requested) as His superior plan.

And I have not been expecting any quick answer; I just plan to keep asking.

Okay, so, I am new around here and embracing my new life with my husband and my new family and I know but ONE couple at church. Yes, one non-family couple in the whole state, and they live right around the corner less than a mile from me here in my town. I drive right by their house when I go the the farm to get milk and eggs. We have had them here and we like them, and I have a long teatime with her every couple of weeks at her house (where I am helping her redecorate - because I sit there and admire, but I also say, "Shouldn't that be over there, in that space?" and "Can I fix those flowers?" and she is glad for the ideas and we 86 pictures ("too cluttered!" "doesn't fit!") and move furniture.(I love the design challenge. She is sentimental fru-fru and her LSE husband is modern sleek!). Well one day, a change of scenery! This beautiful girl walks in, her daughter from college, my son's age, and she is a dear, likable girl. And did I say pretty? Yes. And smart. And she talked a bit while she got her (very particular) lunch/snacks ready for work, and she made this one humorous comment that revealed this tiny bit of spunky-sass to her sweet gentle side (her mom is sweet gentle SEI, and SEI isn't spunky from what I've always seen). And I thought: "She is IEI!" I don't consider my VI to be super-strong, but I just had this sudden impression that she looks/feels IEI. And sometimes that first light-bulb-impression turns out to be true! However, she has a longtime dating relationship with a guy in this town, so I set that idea - and you know what idea I had - aside.

Well, last week at tea her Mom is describing how she suspects things seem to be on the outs with that guy (who does not seem good enough for her from what I hear) though her daughter is not sharing on that yet.

So I have arranged for them to meet this weekend! We will all have breakfast here! Ds is between summer sessions and is visiting, and I told him I want him to meet my good new friend here and also I want him to meet her real pretty daughter his age. Okay, he said (not being shy or one to turn down meeting a pretty girl). And I told my friend I want them to meet, and that her daughter would be doing me a favor, because I moved here where he knows no one after he finished high school and so when he visits he doesn't know a single young person in town, as he is in college in his Dad's state and works there, and if he met her then I would be glad knowing my son could feel more at home here when he sees a familiar young face when he is visiting Christmas and Easter and summer at Mass... I also told his mother I just have this sense that they would get each other's sense of humor, but that I could be wrong. So she can tell her daughter that if she wants. I think I was successful with the no pressure/no expectation thing. And it could all be nothing! But I keep having this nagging feeling that God just might bless me with this surprise perfect answer to my prayer!

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P.S. Saturday morning - we had our breakfast this morning, 6 of us but two husbands really really talked, leaving very little time for the college two to talk. That was the point. My friend and I realize we should have filled them in beforehand, to hold back on their chitchat. Of course she and I were holding back so that those two could talk but our husbands take the quiet as a ready-audience, I guess. However, they met. And the few times they had opportunities to talk they did seem to get each other's humor...

So @Maritsa, tell me, do you think I'd make a good matchmaker?

[Beautiful sky]

So I have arranged for them to meet this weekend! We will all have breakfast here! Ds is between summer sessions and is visiting, and I told him I want him to meet my good new friend here and also I want him to meet her real pretty daughter his age. Okay, he said (not being shy or one to turn down meeting a pretty girl). And I told my friend I want them to meet, and that her daughter would be doing me a favor, because I moved here where he knows no one after he finished high school and so when he visits he doesn't know a single young person in town, as he is in college in his Dad's state and works there, and if he met her then I would be glad knowing my son could feel more at home here when he sees a familiar young face when he is visiting Christmas and Easter and summer at Mass... I also told his mother I just have this sense that they would get each other's sense of humor, but that I could be wrong. So she can tell her daughter that if she wants. I think I was successful with the no pressure/no expectation thing. And it could all be nothing! But I keep having this nagging feeling that God just might bless me with this surprise perfect answer to my prayer!

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P.S. Saturday morning - we had our breakfast this morning, 6 of us but two husbands really really talked, leaving very little time for the college two to talk. That as the point. My freind and I realize we should have filled them in before hand to hold back on the talk. Of course she and I were holding back so that those two could talk but our husbands take the quiet as an audience I guess. However, they met. And the few times they had opportunities to talk they did seem to get each other's humor...

So @Maritsa, tell me, do you think I'd make a good matchmaker?

hahah that's a sweet story Eliza. I love it

[maniac]

or alpha


oh thought this was delta examples

[Minde]

An SLE boss once taught me, "Perception is reality."

What do you think of that, Deltans?

[Kyusaku]

An SLE boss once taught me, "Perception is reality."

What do you think of that, Deltans?

I agree with it, but as an intuitive this is rather unpleasant, as I find it more comfortable to live in the abstract. I'm glad LSEs exist because they make reality seem much less intimidating. Two days ago I had to help out my brother move a lot of furniture, and sustained physical efforts tend to be particularly unpleasant for me, but there was this LSE friend of my brother constantly making jokes and being very nice and helpful, it ended up not being so terrible.

[Beautiful sky]

I agree with it, but as an intuitive this is rather unpleasant, as I find it more comfortable to live in the abstract. I'm glad LSEs exist because they make reality seem much less intimidating. Two days ago I had to help out my brother move a lot of furniture, and sustained physical efforts tend to be particularly unpleasant for me, but there was this LSE friend of my brother constantly making jokes and being very nice and helpful, it ended up not being so terrible.

lol less intimidating? hahaha they tell you to get your butt up to go to work is not intimidatingly facing the reality?

[Kyusaku]

lol less intimidating? hahaha they tell you to get your butt up to go to work is not intimidatingly facing the reality?

It's all in how you phrase it ! Also LSEs don't just tell you to do this or that, but they explain to you the most efficient way to realize your task. They are good with compliments too. Contrary to LIE who are much more cut and dry.

[Beautiful sky]

It's all in how you phrase it ! Also LSEs don't just tell you to do this or that, but they explain to you the most efficient way to realize your task. They are good with compliments too. Contrary to LIE who are much more cut and dry.

they do lol when they want to guide, direct someone, they can be persistent and pushy

[Kyusaku]

they do lol when they want to guide, direct someone, they can be persistent and pushy

My experience with LSEs is rather limited.Those I know don't tend to be pushy to a point where I feel uncomfortable.

[Minde]

The SLE's goal seemed to be to make me better at interfacing with customers, to explain why he wanted me to behave in certain ways. Those ways felt less genuine than I'd have preferred. But I was able to grasp his point and see its value; he was/is good at making customers happy.

There is both one reality and many realities.

[Beautiful sky]

i have a kidney infection....poop

[Kim]

I will go to Mexico City and hang out, go to museums, go out, drink lots of margaritas, speak bad Spanish, dance bad salsa with a hot stranger in a public square, eat lots of seafood, buy adorable dresses and shoes, go to the Frida Kahlo museum, bask in the sun, and think to myself "fuck all the drama." Because I can and it's what I do best.

Booked my flight! #yayme #solotravelbecauseitswhatIdobest #¡Ya basta!

[Kim]

i have a kidney infection....poop

[Beautiful sky]

hay, it landed me in the lap of an IEE She asked me if I was pregnant three times. I was beginning to wonder if she wanted to impregnate me (no just being silly, it's to determine proper treatment )

[Kim]

hay, it landed me in the lap of an IEE

I love it when crappy things are good for something!

[Sol]

My experience with LSEs is rather limited.Those I know don't tend to be pushy to a point where I feel uncomfortable.

This depends on your behavior. EII types have lesser possibility to get "pushy" than EIE, for example.
If types are correct, certainly.

I had to deal today with one EII in a shop. 2 parts of the order were not made, despite they promised to do this. So I'll need to visit them again and to spend another couple hours to all this. She behaved so quiet and not aggressive, so I got much lesser bad emotions than should from the situation.

[Beautiful sky]

This depends on your behavior. EII types have lesser possibility to get "pushy" than EIE, for example.
If types are correct, certainly.

I had to deal today with one EII in a shop. 2 parts of the order were not made, despite they promised to do this. So I'll need to visit them again and to spend another couple hours to all this. She behaved so quiet and not aggressive, so I got much lesser bad emotions than should from the situation.

She's embarrassed because of the error and her own values regarding service. Try to come off warm by smiling and not being overly harsh and direct

[Kyusaku]

This depends on your behavior. EII types have lesser possibility to get "pushy" than EIE, for example.
If types are correct, certainly.

I had to deal today with one EII in a shop. 2 parts of the order were not made, despite they promised to do this. So I'll need to visit them again and to spend another couple hours to all this. She behaved so quiet and not aggressive, so I got much lesser bad emotions than should from the situation.

The only instances where I get pushy is when I get stressed out. Most of the time I keep the pressure to myself. I don't like sharing negative stuff.

[Beautiful sky]

It's time to read something involved and epic

[UDP]

I love it when crappy things are good for something!

xxfp life validation moments : P

[Kim]

Sometimes you meet a person who touches your soul in a way that gives you hope that everything will be ok. Even if he is not the one (since circumstances are a bit tricky), he is restoring my faith that there are men out there who care deeply about humanity, who truly want equality for all, who go out and fight for what they believe in, put themselves in harm's ways for their principles, and don't mind being vulnerable and open up about their struggles.

I think this was the encounter I needed to realize that the reason that my two longterm relationships worked out the way they did was that they were with compassionate men who shared my values and who were brave, adventurous, and curious. They did not judge people and they cared about injustice.

Sometimes the universe has to hit you over the head with a sledgehammer and say "will you stop this bullshit with men who are just not for you and get your act together. Here, let me show you: he might not be the one with whom you will spend a lifetime, but he is the type of man you need. He will also be, at the very least, a friend who cares about you. You are welcome. Now relax, do you, and everything will fall into place" <3

(It's a bit cruel that the universe also made him so incredibly beautiful. Damn you, universe.)

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[Kim]

Things can't be OK. Blacks and Whites were created differently, it's called evolution, I don't mean that to be racist just that we look for different things and it's wrong to impose one way of living (genetics) on another (genetics) true live and let live means it's OK, right?. And, there isn't much called perfect. You look for things that society has taught us to look for which leaves us mostly unhappy,

Man I wish I could explain myself more, the truth is to listen to ourselves. Don't sleep around and don't think you have to sell yourself to hit a tick box/button. A real man wants a woman who is a prize, truth, and truth is you want to be one x

I don't live according to what other people think is good for me. And especially not racists.

[Beautiful sky]

I don't live according to what other people think is good for me. And especially not racists.

I was just going to say that he aimed for the wrong target lol

[Beautiful sky]

I know you say this but think about it, every opinion you have is backed up by the mainstream media, you live more to what others (the media - the illuminati - what's happening next, you support whatever the PTB want) you do - think less than you realise, and you're not happy, just be free.

Sounds crazy but I say it because I care.

End of day it's up to you.

Hugs.

Kim, it's sweet for someone to come just to give you a message of peace of mind

[Kim]

Kim, it's sweet for someone to come just to give you a message of peace of mind

It's not a message of peace of mind. It's someone assuming he knows me and the reason behind my choices. He doesn't. And to answer your pm, yes, I believe so.

If I want to sleep around, I will, and if a "a real man" looks at me as a prize, I don't want him.

[Beautiful sky]

It's not a message of peace of mind. It's someone assuming he knows me and the reason behind my choices. He doesn't. And to answer your pm, yes, I believe so.

If I want to sleep around, I will, and if a "a real man" looks at me as a prize, I don't want him.

He's so LSE "think about it" and "free" stale LSE words

[Kim]

He's so LSE "think about it" and "free" stale LSE words

You know, regardless of type, I find it intrusive and disrespectful to respond to my post with random racist assertions (that have NOTHING to do with what I wrote), to tell me I am basically deluded, to tell me I live by the standards of others, and to slut-shame me. And then have the nerve to say "I care."

[Adam Strange]

One of the best things about this site is the way it validates my choices. I may have slept around, I may have made (what appear to others to be) some bad choices, and to some, I may even appear to be a slut because I'm looking to intimately connect with someone, but hey, I don't regret a single foray and besides, that's just the way sx/so works. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you can find (and settle on) a princess.

[Kim]

One of the best things about this site is the way it validates my choices. I may have slept around, I may have made (what appear to others to be) some bad choices, and to some, I may even appear to be a slut because I'm looking to intimately connect with someone, but hey, I don't regret a single foray and besides, that's just the way sx/so works. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you can find (and settle on) a princess.

I agree and thank you, Adam. And if I had not done that, I would be in an unhappy relationship now because I would not have had the chance to realize just how much my own issues influence the partner choices I made (I made the worst choices when I was in very dark places). My post was meant as self-validation - I have come a long way. And I don't care if people think I am a slut. They do their thing, I do mine and I have very very few regrets.

And jeez, how dare women have a sex drive. Keep it pure, ladies. The patriarchy likes you that way.