At the same time,
I have thought more about the LIE-ESI duality and it really seems like a strong, inspirational pairing. I am now somewhat reluctant to interfere with that.
I don't know why it's harder for me to feel that way about my own dual. I have been in a romantic relationship with an ISTp, and the best I would say is that he was very
responsive to me, which is unusual for me to experience. I also had an ISTp for a best (female) friend. Again, very chill, very easy to be engaged and spend a lot of time together.
But I still don't really know what these types need me for (and thus am unexcited by the prospect),
whereas I know what the ILIs get out of me, and what they give in return is excitement and purpose for me. So when I think about the rational, extroverted versions of these same ego-types, I
figure it will be more of the same yet amplified. ESTjs in particular seem very capable and don't have the tinge of insecurity that irrationals have, and ENTjs are also rational yet they have the bit of quirk that turns something on inside of me.