I remember working on a group project with someone I only could think was LIE, it's weird because they were depressed for quiet sometime and not super ambitious like all the stereotypes. But on this group project, even though he was not set as the leader, he pretty much over spoke the leader who was a soft spoken SLI, and he constantly tried to get his way, like he already had a firm idea in his mind of how he wanted things to turn out and constantly tried to force people in that direction. The problem was, this wasn't an assignment where we had a clear goal, this was a team project where we had to make something, something that we all agreed to make. But this guy kept trying to control the decision on what we were gonna make. He controlled all input. I worked pretty hard o something for the project, I showed in to the group and tried to get approval from the team lead to keep going with it, and the LIE dude goes "NO!". No explanation, just no, he's not even the team lead, no one says anything, he just steam rolled and the team lead just let him make the decision. So after this I let the team, I just couldn't take it anymore. I joined another group in that class and the funny thing was the lead of that team was an LSE, he had his asshole ways also but there was a similar scenario where I turned in something I was working on for the project. I looked for his approval to see if it would make it in the final draft of the project, he told me no, then he tells me WHY. He said a couple things and I made the changes and got the approval from him to include it in that project. It was simple. But the LIE dude, man he was a mess, every step of the way he, it got so bad that he would be over your shoulder telling you what he wanted you to do as you were doing it, I almost got up and said "Do you it yourself!" one time. When he finally got a girlfriend he was like a different person, he toned down a softened up a ton. And when I got what he considered a "high status" job, his attitude towards me completely changed, it went from telling me what to do to all of the sudden wanting to team up with my "credentials".
There is another LIE woman I know. She is gorgeous but married and twice my age. We aren't real close but are part of the same friend group and so we are somewhat friends. She could be mistaken as an introvert, in action only, because she doesn't talk much in groups, but her appearance is big and bold, military woman, fancy dresses, bold necklaces that make a statement, and she's got a new hairstyle every time you see her. We don't talk much so I decide to sit next to her at a meeting to have some conversation with her and I get pleasantly surprised. She can talk up a storm, I don't mind because it's interesting to see her talk this much. She starts getting really involved in it all, telling me about her military adventures, and then that leads to this book she wants to write. It's about finding relationships, she knows a ton of single women "at the top" that are middle age and she thinks it's sad because " you can't build memories with all that money." Anyway, the conversation picks up fast, but I end up having to leave because my ride is ready to go, so she tells me "Oh, you better go, because I can talk all day!". But I leave feeling excited, from just seeing her talk so much and her high energy and dreams are inspiring. The next time I see her, I'm manning an audio visual device for our meeting, so I can't talk much, and usually when she sees me she says hi and keeps it moving, but this time she says hi and just stands in the door way leaning on the wall for a good second, looking off in some distance. Not sure if she wants to speak to me or...? I already find her physically attractive, but now I feel like we got a little closer, that's big trouble for me with a married woman, I don't wanna torture myself with the inevitable imaginations. So I feel guilty about my own thoughts and say nothing, and after a couple seconds she taps the wall and walks away. And that's how things are today, haven't spoken to her much since. There was one time she sat next to me, which she never does, but I said nothing that time too. Anyway, that's all, she's something.
Originally Posted by Kalinoche buenanoche
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