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I think another important factor in communication is sensitivity and empathy. When these are dissonant, it can cause a lot of frustration.

Agree. That's probably one of the keys to any intertype relationship, especially if it's not a dual. If both partners try to be understanding, sensitive, and empathetic to the other, to an extent they may have a pretty good relationship. However, it's just as important to realize when we can't understand a partner or don't see eye to eye. Recognizing and accepting this can lessen discomfort or anxiety to some degree. We don't always have to understand; just being there in the way the partner needs even if we don't get it, may be enough. Then, you won't need to pretend that you understand, or behave as if you do. As long as you don't put your partner down or dismiss their feelings or concerns because you don't get them, you can probably have a pretty good thing going.