My dual if it's a female is probably one of the few people that I can be bothered with in a long term relationship. If it's a male dual, which would for me just be friendship, I find them to be a little.. temperamental is perhaps the word, and a bit too different at times. Of course these are generalisations but it's typically true. I think sexual attraction is a real cementer for psychological compatibility with someone who's similar but yet so different like a dual.
For same sex friends, I usually find my activator a better match than my dual. Probably because we are both introverts so our general approach to activities and social groups is more similar.
ESTj's as friends have usually been the ones who've encouraged me to broaden my horizons, with our similarities but their comparatively more extraverted tendencies.
If anyone meets a male ISFp-Fe with a brain, let me know.
God, I'd love a dual with a brain we could share between us.
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I'm finally gonna attempt my best at answering this very difficult question. I actually avoided this, dunno why. Trying to write it w/o bias or anything so here goes --
My dual is someone who is passionate. I think that's the most important thing for me. Passion to me is intensity, it's like... someone that is down for the most random things, adventures and the like... w/o a second thought. It's also an inner chasm filled with the je ne sais quoi that I feel from certain people that I meet, a very select few, mind you.
When I look at my dual, I wanna feel like... with this person, anything and everything can be accomplished. I want to be merged with them, entirely. I want to feel every drop of emotion that they have... I want them to pour it all over me. A torrent of emotion...
That being said, my dual obviously cannot be entirely 'logical' persay... they are ruled by their hearts, not their minds. I don't want anything hidden, emotion wise. I want to feel the depth of it all.
My dual should be able to sweep me away, make me forget about worries... anxiety and other such things. They should be able to calm, to soothe a high maintenance person like me. Preferably, they should be a rock for me to lean against. Yet that rock should also have a softer side.
Blah. I think I want a hybrid INFp-ESTp.
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It takes a fair amount of provocation. I tend not to focus on my own needs, and that usually includes establishing my intelligence to others. I'd rather focus on keeping everything running smoothly within my group/environment. Four things can provoke me to the point where I'll snap out of this behaviour and react with a quick and hopefully intelligent response (to mobilise):
- Provocation disrupting the atmosphere of the group that nobody else can/will deal with
- Physical injury requiring quick response
- Emotional attack on myself that somehow sneaks under my tough exterior (not common)
- Helping someone to see different perspectives and regain direction when they are feeling lost.
Otherwise all you'll see is tomfoolery and good times really
If I spent all of my time proving how great I was to everyone else, I wouldn't have time to actually be helpful and supportive of others any more. In relation to myself that seems somehow greedy/morally perverse. I'll leave that sort of thing to the natural problem solvers (i.e. Alpha NTs) and focus on my strengths in keeping harmony, support and emotional balance when and where I can.
The thing about hidden agendas is it's a basic desire of the person (in the case of SEI, Ti). They have a hard time achieving it at times, but over time they learn better ways of using it. Duals would certainly help both in providing their own Ti and a comfortable environment for the SEI to use hers. Eventually SEIs will start to surprise you with their depths of knowledge and observational powers.
In a similar way, my bumbling efforts to inspire Fe are often a higher priority to me than demonstrating the things I'm naturally good at (Ne/Ti). So in theory I could eventually become more loveable and fun than an SEI Of course they'll still naturally be better at it, but I would exercise learned patterns and behaviors to affect Fe more.
Dual seeking should be similar, but it's more unconscious and doesn't seem as easy to learn.
oh come on, you should know I'm joking. there's a tongue face and everything. Bee is smart everyone.
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