. . .the story continues. . .
today, we saw each other again after like 3 weeks. the interaction is confusing now. when we spotted each other, he was in a group of people chatting, and he smiled and waved. I smiled and waved back, but hesitated to join the group, and didn't. I walked over in my IEI way, to stand by myself observing the group dynamic. I regret now not having walked up to him to talk.
anyway, so this happened as we were all waiting with our colleagues before going in to take a day-long exam. He chose to sit far away from me, but he would frequently look back in my direction (no smiles anymore
).
During our lunch break, a bunch of my friends were sitting near him, and so I decided to join that group hoping that we would get to talk, but he wasnt saying anything, and this girl-friend of mine was chatting me up, and in the middle of it all, he kind of went off to chat with his guy friends at the other end of the room, but the whole time we kept glancing at each other across the room.
Honestly, I felt a little hurt and rejected that he left the group when I joined them for lunch, but at the same time, i feel like he felt snubbed by me after he said hi and i didn't come up to him.
on the other hand, in a way, the lunchtime interaction almost felt like I borrowed his personality and he borrowed mine. I was the chatty center of attention and he was quieter sitting on the periphery (only i think I am more comfortable with that than he is, so he had to seek out his dudes to join in with)
Anyway, it's just frustrating that we keep looking at each other, and not really knowing what to do next with this apparent mutual attraction.
the thought has crossed my mind to confess my feelings, but i know according to socionics the duality interaction dictates that the extravert takes action to advance the relationship while the introvert assesses the status of the relationship and welcomes the actions of the extravert. I feel that I may have failed the introvert's duty to an extent because I may not be welcoming enough of his actions.