In the place Smilingeyes described, I could never feel relaxed. I don't know how I should act, because the rules are subjective and unclear. I'd be too afraid of fucking up to enjoy the atmosphere. I'd end up getting angry and purposefully being loud or weird to piss off everyone just to stop the tense feeling.
I'd provoke him to put how he feels about me out in the open. Even if he kicked me out, it would make things "clear" and id feel at ease. Its the not knowing thats the worst.
Uhg Fi.