I know it sounds silly but life is not black and white. It's really difficult, it's always your choice but it makes it perfect .
people who cheat are afraid of being alone, or insecure, or don't have ethics. Those aren't type related. I've heard of just about all 16 types cheating, they just do it in different ways.
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Yeah. This can even apply with a significant other whom you've built up a solid amount of trust with. There is a context, an emotional connection, etc., and you may be thinking that this desire is just a transient impulse, and that it may be better to try to satiate it quickly than make a huge life change because of it.Originally Posted by redbaron
Plus, people are always looking to get away with as much as possible. If faced with some dilemma on the relationship, they will most likely abstain from cheating to preserve the relationship.
Which basically goes to show that it was never necessary in the first place, and that people are just looking for ways to give in to their impulses, without causing negative consequences.
People just need to learn what they value.
I don't know that it has to be. We don't need metaphysical/objective/etc. definitions of these things to know how they work in real life, and how they feel to us. The means by which people attain happiness, love, etc. may be different, but the feelings themselves are universal; thus we can speak of this topic in reference to those feelings generated, not just the concepts of what those feelings are supposed to be.
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Thanks.Originally Posted by redbaron
I wasn't thinking about benefit. I said that to illustrate redbaron's point better—that sometimes people feel that cheating is more convenient than dumping, because of the context, trust, etc. that they've built up in the relationship. But my overall point was to say that such an impulse is pointless anyway, and that people need to learn what they value.
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Oh please don't "experiment w/ the two timing thing"!! The world needs at least a handful of people who are still loyal and not cheaters!! I think people who cheat are really not able to be that close to another person, so they prob feel they don't have much to lose. But if it's possible for someone to actually feel something strong for another person, I don't see why anyone would risk that. It's too rare of a thing to lose.
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That's an interesting question. I haven't really considered it before.. but I think if I really needed something I'd go out and get it, right? And I've never done that. So I'm guessing the answer is no.Have you never needed something purely for physical reasons?
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In terms of cheating:
What is worse - thinking about somebody else, dreaming about them or being drunk and having sex with someone?
Would you forgive any of these?
Well, personally, the two things go together for me, but I've always been relationship focused. Everyone is different of course.
The thing is, if someone wants something for physical reasons only, why cheat? Why not dump the guy you're with and just date people who didn't want relationships? There are tons of people like that out there. Or get a friends with benefits or something and keep your options open, right? I'm sure tons of guys would love that arrangement.
I don't care what people want to do, but when they're misleading and hurting someone else in order to get it for themselves, that's a problem.
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Basically, my opinion on the subject shouldn't matter as I've never really been in more than one serious relationship in which i cared enough about the other person not to cheat. When I was once, the thought never entered my mind.
Sex is actually psychologically a destructive act on the psyche. Love is not about destruction, it is about putting things together and building something. Is it possible to build something and destroy it at the same time? Nope ... same thing with love and sex, the two can not really coexist with each other.
having sex with them is worse than thinking about them. Thoughts don't have consequences, actions usually do. Tho of course thoughts can lead to actions.
I'd forgive the thoughts of course (actually I don't even want to KNOW about the thoughts) but of course the actions must be contextualized. There's a difference between a one-night stand when drunk and an ongoing emotionally attached relationship.
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So, let's put this in perspective.
I'm asexual, therefore I cannot feel love.
Is this what you're saying? And don't give me that "No true Scotsman" argument, because we both know that's a fallacy.
this reminds me of some guy who was on the view talking about his asexual organization and its funny, because like your type i suspected he was an ENTP. Si is the fourth function of the ENTP and according to what I've read that is the vulnerable function of that type (and the 4th function vulnerable for all types).
Oh, gotcha.
3 seems invalid then, since it should translate out to "Love and sex are mutually concurrent".
On a related note, this is why I doubt I have creative
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No, I gotcha f'real. My bad.