super-ego for me can be bad w/ girls especially. I don't like to be told what to do or have my stuff moved. Very bad. It could just depend on the one girl I knew.
But w/ guys they were more chill and really didn't bother me. It was more that it was almost boring because I knew they were all about Se. However, I also didn't ever think they were assholes (and I guess it can be hard for ESTps when everyone thinks they are an asshole because of the Se). I could definitely see the niceness in them and I liked that.
Occasionally when they were quiet they'd remind me of ISTps though I'd be like "hmm! maybe he's an ISTP!" and get all interested. but then he'd walk into a room and have that ESTp aura and I'd realize that I'd rather the aura be all about me and not have to compete for attention.