Originally Posted by
iAnnAu
I remember trying to get my ex-husband, who is INFp, to exercise.
We started with racquetball, and he was a fairly avid player, but he always wanted to play games according to the rules, and I just wanted to play. He complained that playing without rules changed his reactions and put him at a disadvantage when he went back to playing with them. So we kept score & all that, but eventually we stopped playing & never started again.
So then I wanted to get into a martial art, and he insisted it be something we do together. But he didn't want to do anything too intense, so we compromised with Tai Chi taught at a traditional Kung Fu school. But he wouldn't focus, and the sifu taught us together, so he kept holding me back. I got annoyed because he was obviously not even trying, and because he would deliberately try to kiss on me during class, breaking my concentration and being (unintentionally) rude to the sifu. I finally realized he wanted to quit but wouldn't until I did, so I gave up. I was really quite annoyed at that whole deal ...
So, we agreed to join a gym. That way we could go together but do separate things. But I started to notice that he would never put much effort forth. He would get on this one reclined stepper machine and do that for 45 minutes at a moderate pace. I explained to him about cardio conditioning, and the added effectiveness of intervals, etc., and he ignored me. I would get on the rowing ergometer right next to him and burn more calories in 20 minutes than he did in 45, after having done an entire weight circuit, but he would not rise to the challenge.
Finally, he admitted to me that physical exertion was painful to him, and that he didn't get anything like a runner's high. I must get good endorphins, because when I work out, I wring myself out thoroughly. Many are the nights when I can barely crawl up into my van and then hold a steady pressure on the accelerator to get home from the gym ... and when I have to struggle to peel my sweaty clothes off to get in the shower, I have an exultant feeling of having accomplished something. So, I guess if I didn't get that "reward" I probably wouldn't push myself so hard, either.
What do you see as type or quadra related in exercise styles, strrrng? Or are you just asking, and it happens to be in the quadra subforum rather than in Anything Goes?