Example of an INTp & INFj conversation (benefit relations)

[crazedrat]

You're right. In assymetrical relations, though, it occurs that one person really can't find a way to give input into the relationship. And that isn't happening here. We see both giving equal input into the relationship, regardless of it being negative input.

[Joy]

What type is he Joy?

I couldn't say, based solely on that. If he's the guy from the video though, he's IP. He looks a little bit like my ILI brother, but not enough for me to say I think he's ILI.

[crazedrat]

So you're basing your responses on nothing as usual. Okay then

[Joy]

I'm basing my "I don't know" response on the fact that I don't know, if that's okay with you.

[redbaron]

I'm basing my "I don't know" response on the fact that I don't know, if that's okay with you.

[Creepy-Diana]

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[redbaron]

I don't see a problem with having guy friends personally. It doesn't have to be weird or turn out badly. Once you or they are married though, it's different. You can still be friends, but you switch to being a friend of the couple, not the individual.

if you're both married and you see one another in a context where the spouses aren't available? what if you try to include the spouse and she doesn't want to be included? well anyway... I guess it should be obvious if there's attraction. And in that case maybe more distance is required.

*&^%$#@

[Joy]

I don't see a problem with having guy friends personally. It doesn't have to be weird or turn out badly.

It's just a matter of avoiding that breaking point, I think. And it's difficult for me to tell when it's getting to a point of no return or whatever, so I just try to keep more than enough distance. I could see an ESI not having this problem though.

Once you or they are married though, it's different. You can still be friends, but you switch to being a friend of the couple, not the individual.

Yeah, that would actually be a lot easier, I think. Peter tends not to be interested in hanging out with new people though.