Do you consider yourself to be more physically attractive than the average person?

[strrrng]

Yes, I do. I've had this reaffirmed throughout my life by attractive females (the compliments of "handsomeness" from older women were odd at times). Thus I have always had standards which I arrogantly maintained. I think the way one carries one's self is a result of knowing (not thinking) they are attractive. And this certainty of their attractiveness is not merely a concept, but a consistent reflection of themselves in the eyes of others -- specifically the opposite sex. Fuck the people who say beauty is relative, or insist on their attractiveness in the face of external dissonance, based solely on the fact that "they know." While we all find different things attractive to some degree, I believe there is some general, inherent method by which we immediately gauge someone's attractiveness (all that intrinsic harmony of proportions stuff). The way I carry myself is something that matters very much to me, and I do work to improve it, generally. The world is a playground, and you better come prepared. Gain more experience and confidence, so that you can hone your self-image and presentation to the highest degree. I think one should put effort into their appearance, but not force anything; if you're attractive, you just are. But taking care of one's self is part of the overall package. And yes, appearances do matter; I don't care what anyone says. It's the first thing we notice about someone and plays a very large part in our initial assessment of them -- on a more reactive level. Put simply, if most of the people you have hooked up with/been in relationships with are 8-8.5s and up (on a legit scale), chances are you're attractive.

[Khola aka Bee]

I....don't know? I'm no supermodel, but I have a nice physique, I think I'm fairly well maintained? I don't like talking myself up physically. Silly flirty suggestion yes. Actual "I look fit" type comments? Uncomfortable.

[Lotus]

Be objective about this; do you think you are more attractive than most people in your general age range?

I suppose. Sometimes it feels that way and at other times it doesn't. So much for objective?

Does the way you carry yourself matter to you? Is it something you work on, or seek to improve?

I think eye contact and self-confidence is more attractive.

Do you think looks matter when presenting yourself to the world?

Yes, to an extent—but personality matters so much more. I'm often completely disgusted by so-called "objectively attractive" people, so one really cannot rely on looks alone.

[crazedrat]

I think people see themselves as physically attractive relative to an ideal version of themselves they have in their minds; and not so much as relative to other people. I mean, there is a tendency to think 'well yes of course i am better looking than most people', but this knowledge seems to have very little value. Otherwise this would leave me wondering how hideously ugly people could contain their anxiety; if i was as ugly as they were i couldn't stand it. But then I do look at other people and think 'do their looks match the level of my ideal self image?'. And it is true the better looking people seem to be the ones who care about looks the most.

[Wynch]

lol, I'm so surprised I'm the only one who hit average on this one.

I think I'm average. I'm by no means stunning, and I would say that I would perhaps be a little more than average, but being realistic I say average.

[Joy]

Most of the posters here are better looking than the average person their age. At least the ones I've seen photos/web cams of. And there are also a bunch that are average. I don't think I've seen photos/web cams of anyone that falls into the "uglier than average" category.

[Joy]

lol, I'm so surprised I'm the only one who hit average on this one.

I think I'm average. I'm by no means stunning, and I would say that I would perhaps be a little more than average, but being realistic I say average.

Based on what little I've seen of you, I'd say you're more attractive than the average young adult.

[crazedrat]

That's right little doggy!

[Creepy-bg]

Vero is teh sex

[Socionics Is A Cult]

Most of the posters here are better looking than the average person their age. At least the ones I've seen photos/web cams of. And there are also a bunch that are average. I don't think I've seen photos/web cams of anyone that falls into the "uglier than average" category.

Perhaps those whom you would consider ugly to average in appearance don't show their appearance online for whatever reason?

[jessica129]

I mean, there is a tendency to think 'well yes of course i am better looking than most people', but this knowledge seems to have very little value. Otherwise this would leave me wondering how hideously ugly people could contain their anxiety; if i was as ugly as they were i couldn't stand it.

lol

I think I'm about average. I've been feeling kinda ugly lately though.

[Wynch]

Jessica, when I first came on here I was looking through pictures on the picture thread and you were someone who struck me as totally beautiful and I was jealous. So there.

[Creepy-Diana]

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[tereg]

I've always considered myself hovering around average. It is something that I do think about as far as how I present myself to others.

I think honestly the way I've historically assessed myself as being "average" had a negative connotation to it. I've always had that sort of "middle of the pack" feel about myself in several areas of my life, and it's a feeling of mediocrity. It is overall good/decent, but it's still a feeling like I'm somehow unable to really distinguish myself in any sort of way.

[The_Outsider]

I personally think I am an average looking guy, but I am told by others quite often that I am a good looking guy and that conflicts with my perception. In my opinion, charisma is much more useful than good looks when it comes to being liked by others.

[crazedrat]

As long as I get to fuck everyone who I want to then I am happy! I hope you all get to fuck everyone you want to too! Let's all fuck eachother

[xyz]

It's not like girls look for pretty guys or anything, so what does it matter?

[redbaron]

I think people see themselves as physically attractive relative to an ideal version of themselves they have in their minds; and not so much as relative to other people.

I think this is true. I feel much much better about myself when I'm the best I can be and I know I'm trying than when I let myself go, even though I might not be ugly compared to the rest of the population even when I'm fatter and doing nothing to help my appearance or posture, etc.

One thing: I have a really hard time accepting compliments when I know I'm not the best I can be. About five years ago I weighed almost 20 pounds more than I do now (not sure why really, I think I was unhappy and it was emotional eating). If I had received a compliment back then about anything--hair, clothes, "you look nice", I would have wrote it off in my mind as being untrue or as meaning very little. Now, however, I welcome compliments because I agree with them, relative to my own personal potential.

[Slacker]

I used to be, but now I'm probably more average. Although I still have men (my own age) come onto me, even knowing I'm married, and even though I'm pregnant, so maybe I'm above average for a 40-year-old. I'd say if I am, I'm not that much above average though. And I'm pregnant so who knows if I'll take off the pregnancy weight - things might be worse from now on.

Ah, aging. It happens to everyone eventually. One good thing about being happily married is knowing you can age and your looks can fade and that you'll be loved forever regardless.

[Slacker]

Oh, and bee and jessica are most certainly above average. Silly girls.

[xyz]

Compliments are nice but I prefer cake.

[redbaron]

Compliments are nice but I prefer cake.

pie.

[Slacker]

Ice cream. Mmmm. Even in the winter.

[xyz]

pie.

Only if it's Blueberry. Or triple berry.

Regardless, looks are fine and dandy and all concerning first impressions but there's still lots that can be said for charm and wit.

[redbaron]

Only if it's Blueberry. Or triple berry.

Regardless, looks are fine and dandy and all concerning first impressions but there's still lots that can be said for charm and wit.

absolutely.

[cracka]

Regardless, looks are fine and dandy and all concerning first impressions but there's still lots that can be said for charm and wit.

I think much the same thing... but only because I think I'm average, I have to have something going for me...haha.

[Khamelion]

Someone out there likes my physique, someone out there appreciates my brand of "pretty"...and some out there appreciate even more than that.

This is a hard question for me, seeing as attractiveness is highly based on intelligence levels and other personality factors for me. Someone could be really physically attractive yet not attractive in MY perspective because they are an idiot of some sort.


Given the results from others, I'd say Im fairly attractive, maybe more than some others....

I work in a grocery store and it seems my brand of beauty (that is strange to type) is popular among older women and men...(despite the fact I worked in FL ) Even here in DE its like that. If younger people find me attractive they don't say anything, especially not to me while I'm working. The older people just like to tell me how beautiful my skin is and how my hair compliments the tone, and then the eyes....oh geez the eyes -_-.....and the height......a lot of men like my height for some reason >_>

Its like if you're a tall woman, you are automatically kinky.

[Slacker]

Its like if you're a tall woman, you are automatically kinky.

Maybe that's why I still get attention, despite my graying hair and wrinkling skin. And heavily pregnant belly. Why do men come onto pregnant women? A friend told me that some guys are "into" pregnancy. Isn't that weird? To find a woman who is pregnant with someone else's baby sexy because she's pregnant? And for god's sake I'm old AND pregnant. Should be two great big strikes against me.

My husband says I look "very approachable" and he thinks that's why.

[xyz]

Maybe that's why I still get attention, despite my graying hair and wrinkling skin. And heavily pregnant belly. Why do men come onto pregnant women? A friend told me that some guys are "into" pregnancy. Isn't that weird? To find a woman who is pregnant with someone else's baby sexy because she's pregnant? And for god's sake I'm old AND pregnant. Should be two great big strikes against me.

My husband says I look "very approachable" and he thinks that's why.

It's your charm.

[Elro]

Maybe that's why I still get attention, despite my graying hair and wrinkling skin.

?

[Slacker]

ROFL! Not quite there yet.

[crazedrat]

Actually that kind of makes sense for the tallness, in a weird way .... duno why though.

[jessica129]

...that it makes women more attractive? I put heels on and I get numbers, that's all I know.

[Socionics Is A Cult]

When I put the heels on, I get looks, but not numbers. I guess it probably depends on the person.

[crazedrat]

ive come up with an explanation, and that is that it creates a need to conquer the girl, cuz she's taller than you. but im just imagining this, because i've only met a few girls taller than me ever

[Slacker]

I think guys just like long legs.

[Creepy-Diana]

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[calenwen]

Hm, how tall is tall?

I get a lot of compliments on my looks by older people (and by older, I guess I only mean one generation or so and up), and every guy I've ever "liked" has "liked" me back, but I honestly don't consider myself to be above average.

[redbaron]

Hm, how tall is tall?

I get a lot of compliments on my looks by older people (and by older, I guess I only mean one generation or so and up), and every guy I've ever "liked" has "liked" me back, but I honestly don't consider myself to be above average.

Oh I think you are! I remember the pics of you in the other thread

Tall is probably 5'9 and up or something. I'm 5'10" and I consider myself tall but I know it's not THAT tall. I have a female cousin who's 6'2".

[discojoe]

I objectively am more attractive than the average person.