How does one deal with an ESFj who is really demanding?

He requests my Ti all the time yet will refute my analysis of a situation when it involves him (says I overanalyze). I have discovered he's REALLY sensitive to criticism. He will become so persistant to find out every detail of my life and then will push my buttons when I deny him information. Is it true when they say ESFjs are largely unaware of the consequences of their actions...or rather, more so than other types?