Originally Posted by
dbmmama
my favorite conversations are ones where we discuss some concept indepth going in and out and over and around and through the logic of it all. this is much easier irl because we can bounce all ideas off of each other and each other's ideas and such.
This probably suggests Ti > Te valuing, and possibly Ne.
what irks me is when i realize that the other is going to take offense to something being presented. that slows, if not stops, the flow of the ideas and understanding. if it's someone i know well enuf, i'll preface for them, but i prefer not to. yeah, I hate that too. People should put aside their petty squabbles over subjects so that productive discussion can prosper.
this is my natural, normal "know it all" me that some don't like because i'm pretty blunt with my ideas, opinions etc. unfortunately, some take it that i think they should think what i do on a given subject. but that's not what i'm doing. i like to get a lot of ideas "out there" to get the other and me thinking in new directions because anything is possible. Fe valuing probably. A lot of Fe valuers will be more prone to promote ideas, maybe partially to indulge in the Fe atmosphere and get a response, and also to have the clarity of their ideas examined (whereas a Te type's clarity is much more externally-based, so he doesn't feel the need to have it reaffirmed as much). This is just a vibe, but the statement about getting a lot of ideas out there, coupled with the undertone of enjoying exploring a lot of venues in the above post seems to point to valued Ne.
i can't do this very well on the internet because the ideas and thoughts come too fast to put into words to type them and then wait for a response from someone else. my mind has moved on to 15 other things by then. yeah, lol, sux.
so, here, you guys only see me one way because that's the easiest to do on the internet. putting my own natural logical ideas together happens easier in a conversation or when i write my ebooks, articles, a website or in a coaching session. or in how i organize my thoughts on what i do with my kids, my life...my inner thoughts on things. Ti/Fe
on another note, hubby and i don't really argue. we're so straight up with each other before it gets to that. not that we agree on everything but we are very good at agreeing to disagree without having to argue. come to think of it, others MAY see it as arguing but for us, it isn't. it's us airing things out and we both know it's not personal when we do because we don't attack each other's inner person, inner feelings, character, etc. we care about each other too much in the big picture to do that to the other. so, we air out our thoughts, feelings and ideas on things so we always make sure we're on the same page as we go along together in life, with each other, our family, etc...and then can get on with the business of life, the joy of life together. that's good - a sign of a healthy, productive relationship.
i wish i could do that with everyone. neither of us find friends who we can really do that with. i'll have to work on manifesting that one. You can't have such a special connection with everyone. Otherwise, it wouldn't be so significant