Originally Posted by
Gilly
Hmmm...well, with me my usage of Fe is primarily governed by Fi, my relationship with a person: what kind of rapport I have with them, what they know about me, what they have come to expect from me as a person, etc. For instance, I feel awkward being loud, ebullient and expressive around my family, because that simply wasn't part of how I acted when I grew up around them. We have "cutesy moments," in which some sort of Si+Fe-ness comes out, and my mother can be raucous at times, but on the whole we are mostly subdued as a group. However, at work, around the people who have come to know me as loud, somewhat obnoxious, uninhibited, expressive, etc, I act that way almost by default; even if I'm having a shitty day when I walk in, I will eventually start prodding people with jokes/snide remarks, making funny noises and faces, singing along with the music, etc. With my buddies from home, I act a little more down-to-earth, somewhat aloof, but with intervals of loud, raucous, even silly-expressive behavior.