Originally Posted by mike_INTJ
is there a function, or a type or something like that - that prevents one from wanting to touch another person? time and time again i see people casually touching each other at work. a shoulder, an arm, etc. i can't imagine wanting to touch anyone. but at times i would like to - as a consoling method or whatever.
i'm not sure what i would have to do, to actually touch someone. it's the same hesitation i get when i need to say something important to someone.
i'm actually not sure what i'm asking - does anyone else have this "problem"? i think it would make me appear more compassionate or caring if i could lend a soft touch to someone. but i just can't figure what's stopping me...
I read you loud and clear. I was horrible at both years ago, but through martial arts I've gotten better at touch, yet.... I still evade people whenever I can. Walking to class, in halls, especially people in HS. In middle school, people made fun of me because I was easier to knock over than other people.
I still hesitate about saying important things.... but I've developed a tested method of "look, if (I) you were going to say it, then get it overwith", (well, there's more to it than that, but, for now, that will suffice).
I'm incredibly hesitant to touch other people, but I have gotten better. I've trained myself over the last few years to learn how to initiate contact with people, when neccesary or advantageous. However, if someone touches me unexpectedly, I either have a very awkard response, or just stand there without reaction. At this moment I cannot differentiate as to why I am either/or on this subject.....
Bottome line: you're not alone. I wouldn't be surprised if this was fairly common.