My point was that being "bad at" something or "good at" something doesn't necessarily mean those functions are weak or strong in you. See the stuff I said about my mom for examples.
I thought of saying something related to this to phaedrus... might as well do it now.
Phaedrus, two things:
First and most importantly, if you can't comfortably allow other people to be wrong you're setting yourself up for constant and endless stress, unhappiness, and bad relationships. People are very frequently wrong about things. It happens. That's just how things are, and nothing anyone could ever say or do will change that. As long as your level of internal comfort or state of wellbeing is dependent on the behavior and thoughts of others, you are going to be miserable.
Secondly, if what you truly want is for people to be better informed with more accurate information, what you're essentially trying to do is teach. There are many different methods used to teach, some far more effective than others.What do you think you're going to accomplish by insisting that a person is wrong, speaking almost exclusively in absolutes, throwing around insults, and name calling? If your goal is to teach someone new/different information, the best thing to do is to encourage/inspire them to want to learn about it. (Simply presenting the information in and of itself can also be effective.) What you generally do, however, does nothing more than prevent people from taking you seriously and/or make them feel as though they need to defend their position. As a result, they are not open to what you're saying (regardless of how correct it may be).
- Those who use encouragement to inspire people to want to learn and discover are good teachers.
- Those who simply present information for people to review or absorb according their desire and ability are typical teachers.
- Those who aggressively defend their position and attack those who disagree are doing nothing more than protecting their sense of self.
In summary, ask yourself what you desire to accomplish. Do you want to create a positive result for yourself? (If so, see my first point.) Do you want to create a positive result for others? (If so, see my second point.)