Originally Posted by
Jem
Thanks for the repsonses. (c: I was asking because I'm in a chamber group consisting of those personalities, and I usually end up being the one who tries to create some semblance of order. I was wondering if that would be typical. There's an ISTj that participates on occasion, and when he's there, I relax because he naturally leads. Then I take on the role of mediator which is more comfortable for me.
I find it quite interesting to observe the group dynamics. The ENTp is often not there, so it's usually just the ENFp, ISTp and me. The ENFp is great about suggesting rehearsal times, but he's always late. So I'm always persuading the ISTp to wait for him rather than leave. During the rehearsal, whenever we stop to go over something or discuss something, it takes an eternity to get going again. Maybe I'll start laughing at some mistake we made, with the intention of getting right back to it ... but the other two seem to take that as me giving up or something - they just start joking and fooling around, and I have to try and get them practicing again. There seems to be more of a black-and-white "work and play" segregration thing for the Deltas, whereas I'd naturally mix the two. I can pretty easily persuade the ENFp that we still need to do a lot of work, but the ISTp thinks it's 'fine' after we've done one good run-over of the piece.
It's a lot easier when the ENTp is there, because she seems to have the same mentality as me as far as mixing work and play. When I suggest we get back to it, she helps me in getting the others to focus again. Though sometimes the ENFp and her will go off on these tangents - something reminds them of another piece and they'll start working on this random song that's got nothing to do with our rehearsal ... which would be fine except that the ISTp takes this as permission to leave, and I have to persuade him to stay ..... oh the vicious cycle lol.
When the ISTj is there, it's all good orderwise, but the feeling isn't as great. He leaves no room for fooling around at all. The ENFp and ISTp are always trying to get him to lighten up, and sometimes succeeding, but only for a second or two. He gets annoyed that the ENFp never seems to play the piece the same way twice. He's like "Yeah! That's sounding great! Let's do it again." The ISTp moans - we start, and lo and behold, the ENFp can't remember what he did before that made the ISTj so happy, 'cause he improvises most of the time. lol It's funny - the ENTp seems to annoy the ISTj most of all, because she can blatantly disregard the ISTj's 'orders' ... whereas the ENFp does so with more subtlety. I get annoyed at the ISTj sometimes for being so bossy, but usually I find myself defending him or trying to placate the others, because none of them like the way he takes it upon himself to tell everyone what to do. If the ISTj is extra harsh, the ENFp will get all quiet and sulkily submissive, but then the ISTp gets annoyed, I get annoyed ... a couple of times we've told him to leave. Meh ... then it's up to me to try and persuade him to come back later - the others wouldn't. )c:
Anyway, I was just curious as to whether the group dynamics I've described sound typical for these types, or whether it sounds like I've mistyped some of them.