"Unlike him she's a normal human being, with emotions. She is capable of love and affection and caring and compassion and warmth and empathy in a way that he is simply not. When he's with other people, he absorbs their emotion and their energy, and gives it back to them with a tremendous radiance that passes for emotion. It's nothing phony, it's heartfelt at the moment, but it's your feeling coming back to you. When he's alone, he's incapable really of feeling much of anything. He's an emotional albino."
()
"Her spiritual mysticism -- is an essential characteristic. She doesn't feel all the bumps on the road because she does have a faith -- it's not "Let Go, Let God" because she tries to manipulate the outcome. But I think that she has a piece with herself over the outcome -- that in times of threats that loom in her life, or have loomed and still loom, they are such that if she took all of them very seriously she'd be a wreck. I think that there's a kind of detachment that probably has a spiritual sense".
(I sense elements here, but also some )
"He works in a different way than [she] -- because his is a more creative intelligence. He can take in the world, and put it together in new ways.
() She takes in the world, and can at times make good decisions, and can see the fault lines and where the fights are
(I see and here). But she can't necessarily create something new out of it, or create a solution where one doesn't necessarily exist, or have the patience to let the decision present itself
(devalued , and the need to concretely see the fruition of something tangible - again). She's much more apt to, when she hits a wall, bang her head into it. He'll figure out a way to go around it or jump over it".
"She's not a creative thinker -- she's not a heavily substantive person. She's not a heavy-duty intellectual. He's much brighter than she is. She's bright, but she's not
very bright. She doesn't spend her time like he does worrying about every problem facing the world, and trying to come up with a solution. [ -- ] She has a certain genre of intelligence, which is that of a very effective advocate".
"He's always talking about books that he either just read or something he read in college. And he'll talk about Thomas Aquinas in the conversation. He'll talk about Erasmus. And he'll talk about Paul Kennedy. [ -- ] It will be a melange, a mosaic
(I wonder how he expresses these things. Is it with a sense of wonder, something just out of reach? Or is it something to provoke conversation with others around him?)-- With her, there are never footprints of anything she's read beyond immediate preparation for her work".
(A very present-minded state of mind. What matters is now. I think multiple elements are at play here, with maybe and visible here)
"She's not supple, flexible, or terribly skillful politically. She's brittle, rigid, with the fragility of iron that cracks when you drop it as opposed to steel, which doesn't."
(At this point Gamma sounds pretty good)
"She definitely has a streak of ruthlessness and paranoia [ - - ]. She has enemies. She has an enemies list. She has people she talks to, and people she does not talk to. When she's mad at you she doesn't talk to you for months and months and months. She has a very long shit list. And, she believes in always taking the fight to the other side [ -- ]"
( + I think)
"In a real sense she is his human face [- - ] She's a real person.
(i.e. he's pie-in-the-sky/head in the clouds which to a Gamma an Alpha would appear this way, I think.) I think the big frustration of their marriage is that she's married to the most elusive, withholding, anal-retentive man you can imagine. He uses denial of affection as his method of getting people to do what he wants them to do
(evoking a response by denying emotional response. This sounds like again.) - the ones he's close to - rather than to praise or give affection. It's the strangers he showers everything on -- If he feels that his relationship with you is set, there's nothing to lose -- As he does with her."
(This is a different "present" state of mind, but one with being bold with risk and the exhilaration of the unknown, new experience. Taking caution to the wind. Again, multiple elements in play, but this sounds like it's coming from an sort of motivation from him.)
"I believe it's a relationship in which she is -- addicted to him. And she adores him. She's the best thing that ever happened to him. But he's very elusive and very remote
(This sounds more like a desire for the liberating spirit he seems to exude. She's more concerned about the present, the here and now, whereas his seemingly freewheeling carefree sort of attitude is elusive, intoxicating and frustrating). And when he requires rescue she gets more attention, more affection, more love, more of the caring that I believe she craves from him, and also more power than she otherwise would get."
(He's acting out of when he is catalyzed by the movement, she's responding out of , the emotional caring and connection she desires.)
[--] "I believe that it's a relationship based on mutual enabling. Because she likes what happens when she rescues him -- I think to extent that he's capable of loving anybody, he loves her. But it's a very limited capability in the first place. I think that he sometimes resents her and shakes under her domination
(Domination. Is this PoLR how it's being described here? A judgement of emotional content?). Sometime he welcomes her and needs her, because he requires her rescuing. And, other times he doesn't think a whole lot about her at all -- "
( running off to the fields.)
"I think if she left him it would be a big blow to him, not in the sense that he'd miss her, but in the sense that he would find unacceptable the image of himself that he'd see in the mirror: the man that [she] left. But he'd get over it, and he would go on".
(The action and consequence defining the man. A bad thing that happens because it was caused by a bad person. But like any other ephemeral thought, this also too shall pass.)