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Uniden I wouldn't have too much difficulty standing up for myself if I was overcharged for something. If it was just 10 or 20 cents, I probably wouldn't bother or even notice but if it was a couple of dollars or more, I'd probably say something. I'd still feel a little uneasy disrupting the whole line but I'd still bring up the error because fair is fair.
The Se PoLR might play out a little differently in LII than in EII but I think the tendency towards passivity is still there. Being an H subtype, probably magnifies that somewhat. I am quite passive in other ways.
For example, I'm really bad at self-promotion and 'putting myself out there.' I'm in a part-time on-call job where opportunities for growth and professional development are very limited unless you're a full-time benefitted employee. For several years I just literally waited for things to happen, for opportunities to come to me. If I try hard and do good work, eventually people will notice. But it doesn't always play out that way. It took me a real long time to make that connection. Finally, when I felt 'at the end of my rope' out of frustration, I mentioned this to the manager. She sympathized with me but told me there wasn't much she could do on her end either to help part-timers like me. I was told, it would require a major structural change in the hierarchy of the organization itself and the policies and procedures involving employees with my status and what they can or can't do. I have zero ability in influencing the higher-ups in the organization to listen. I have no idea how to navigate the power structure. I tend to just throw out ideas to whoever is willing to listen because I don't know any better.
Turns out I have to make my own opportunities. Because I'm not getting the type of experience I want in my current position, I have to get it elsewhere. I know what I'd like to be doing I have alot of good ideas but how to implement it, I don't have much clue.
Also, I can't 'make' people do things, especially if they don't want to do them. It just goes so much against my nature. I hate being made to do things myself so I naturally assume others do too. Unlike the EIIs, it isn't always from a concern not to offend or hurt someone's feelings (although it can be sometimes). If someone is truly being an unreasonable idiot, I'm not going to care too much about their feelings. It's more the case, that I know I can't persuade them to see the validity of my point of view. For example, in my job at the library, I have to see to it that customers are obeying certain codes of conduct. This could be something as simple as not eating food or something larger like not yelling out cuss words while talking on the cell phone. When they don't follow the code of conduct, my approach is to explain calmly and logically why they should not be doing that. Alot of people though don't listen well to reason. It's all about what they personally feel right now. They are resistant to listening to me and they just get more belligerent. When someone gets really belligerent like that, I kind of 'shut down' in a way because it's hard for me to process that sort of information in any sort of constructive manner. I'm very poor at handling emotional backlash directed right at me. I either just end up giving into them to shut them up and so I can go back to my own business or I go too far in the opposite direction, like an ultimatum: "Do this now or leave!" It's very difficult to find that happy medium and have the right amount of authoritativeness. I hate this part about my job and there isn't always another staff member nearby to 'do it for me.'