I know that I can "upset" people without really realising it myself.
Although usually I'd say that I "didn't care". Like the situation is more important to me than the individual.
It's like if someone's a fucking drop kick. Why should I give a shit if they want to have a little cry about something? And if I can't get through to them - I may as well ignore them.
And then someone else can "help" them come to terms with .. blah blah blah.
Although I'm not EIE.
I think anyone can act like that though. I read something soemtime time about "in an arguement do you consider the others feelings". And I don't think that everyone "considers other peoples feelings" in the heat of an arguement.