Does anyone know any EIE's who tend to offend/upset people without realizing it (until after they're upset, that is)?
Does anyone know any EIE's who tend to offend/upset people without realizing it (until after they're upset, that is)?
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Interesting.
I know that I can "upset" people without really realising it myself.
Although usually I'd say that I "didn't care". Like the situation is more important to me than the individual.
It's like if someone's a fucking drop kick. Why should I give a shit if they want to have a little cry about something? And if I can't get through to them - I may as well ignore them.
And then someone else can "help" them come to terms with .. blah blah blah.
Although I'm not EIE.
I think anyone can act like that though. I read something soemtime time about "in an arguement do you consider the others feelings". And I don't think that everyone "considers other peoples feelings" in the heat of an arguement.
Usually they know what they're trying to do when they try to upset somebody.
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Uh. Why would they give a shit? In this society nobody views that type as a threat anyway. They are mocked/laughed at/emasculated ... nobody pictures a mafia of a bunch of ENFj or INFp males. ((Unless they were making fun of something)) I don't believe in underestimating anybody, just this annoying human trait I have, but I think the reason they don't give a shit about how other people feel is that, 9 times out of 10 people don't give a shit about them.
we are not considered a threat becuase we choose not to be an asshole and tries to act tough when you are really not, but hey, whatever your types are, you do know that some of the most and hardest people are ENFj, DON'T fuck with us, whatever your types are, becuase generally people think you are hard becuase you act tough, show your toughness, and you are well respected, that is a brunch of pussies people who doesn't have the balls to be good to people because you are always scared that people will judged you in the wrong way, and by that fact you hide yourself and tries to be dominant just so you dont want people to see you are weak, ahhahaha pathetic, Some of the hardest people in this world are the ENFj, SO FUCK OFF.
EIE or not, I do that. upset people off-handedly. especially EIE's hahah
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6w7 sx/so
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Actually I do. I have seen it happening that they go into a sort of emotional explosion, where they are more letting out their own emotions rather than trying to achieve anything with it, and only then do they realize they have caused a lasting offense/upset on the other person. They may be puzzled as to why the other person is still upset, but they do realize it and may regret it, or at least be saddened.
However, I wouldn't say that they "tend" to do it; I have seen it happening on occasion.
, LIE, ENTj logical subtype, 8w9 sx/sp
Originally Posted by implied
Oh, I've seen people do that.
I can kind of enjoy it (from some people) I think.
But then I used to go around saying "I like to see people cry" without thinking of the ramifications of interpretation.
I'm not going to try and push people to cry on purpose. If they happen to that's okay though.
Do you guys really think that ****** thought that his message and agenda would be instantly and happily accepted by everyone in the world and everything would be sunshine and roses?
Yes. I do. And they want to pretend that nothing happened afterwards. They tend to act as "what's the big deal" when I remind them what they did. Like as if loosing control over yourself (and your emotions) is something normal and ordinary. And they tend to be oblivious to the fact that they have a strong potential of seriously hurting someone's feelings by doing that.
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Originally Posted by Gilly
when I get angry at someone, I prefer being mean with them for a little while, even if I lose control emotionally and say mean things. I have plenty of experience with holding back and being shy friendly and later being very angry at them for something else. So I gladly snap and them when I'm angry and i want them to know it and if I'm not angry later then I'll act very friendly to show that I don't have a problem with them later. And no apologizing! If I think it was the right and justified reaction, then I see no reason for apologizing. If I exaggerate something and say something I don't mean and they remember it later, then I take it back and apologize.
I don't really worry about hurting people. If they piss me off and I snap at them and they feel hurt and unable to forgive me or whatever, then the relationship just wasn't meant to be.
I don't offend people too often though. And if I do, I think it's their fault anyway.
EIE, ENFj, intuitive subtype.
E3 (probably 3w4)
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I'm the exact same way. If I took it to far then I'll apologize. If I feel like its not my fault I won't apologize. Instead I'll complain to my friends and explain it over and over again why its the other person's fault. The only way I'll offend someone is when they attack me first. I'll do something to piss them off back.
ENFj Ni subtype 3w4
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haha, yes, I do the same - I complain and explain to my friends. "And then he said ... and then I said... and later he thought I was being mean, but I wasn't! I wasn't being mean at all! And if he interpreted it this way, then it's his problem". Mostly I explain it to a third person when I think that this one person didn't understand me even after the fight. When I dated an SLI a while back, I kept replaying the fights to my IEI sister all the time. If I get everything settled then I don't replay the fight later.
EIE, ENFj, intuitive subtype.
E3 (probably 3w4)
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Lefty
ENFJ
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Lefty
ENFJ
"I'm Sick of Old Men Dreaming Up Wars for Young Men To Die In," George McGovern.
I can be very friendly and nice with people, sometimes even modestly so....
HOWEVER when I am on the attack (especially if I feel secure with them) I will let them have it. And when I mean "let them have it" I mean it. I become detach and want to hurt them emotionally with words and lose my usual cool nature.
Sometimes I regret going over the top and sometimes I feel like it was well justified.
Sometimes I get too fiery for my own good, but I will not let others undermine and try to control me.
ENFp (IEE, intuitive Subtype)