Haha!!! Yeah, "wrong" is a great word for it!! I'm supposed to go to that concert tonight, but after seeing the photo -- well, I just hope that he's not gonna wear those pants tonight.
I can definitely understand why, in theory, kindreds would come across as "darkened shadows" to each other, (i.e. A's creative is B's PoLR.) In my experience, however, the similar leading function increases sympathy... Thus there's not a whole lot of stepping on each other's toes in these relationships.
Extinguishment relations, on the other hand, can have some psychological pressure (almost intellectual pressure) which can feel threatening... This may be particular to the IEI-IEE relationship--I'm not sure... It's like both sides are trying to figure out what the other knows, so as to judge/classify the other... One of my good friends is INFp, and even that relationship has a subtle element of under-the-surface competition.
Has anyone else found this w/ Extinguishment relations?