Re: The bitchy ESE jessica described - I have met more than couple of ESEs who do the same thing when they feel "ignored." I have been victim to it myself. Just because I wasn't super friendly and all over her ("charmed" by her as others apparently are at first contact) ... she started trying to make my life miserable. She believed lots of preconceived notions, random rumors she supposedly heard about me. I don't trust her at all and probably never will. She is very vindictive and spiteful.
Her inferiority complex is extremely apparent and she constantly tries to make me feel bad .. an example of this ALWAYS occurs in groups of people. She goes out and does her major
thing, and it's absolutely sickening to me b/c I don't see how these fools could fall for such a simpering, sweet act. But they do. And then she tries to wave it in my face as if saying - "lookie, look how many people I am friends with and that like me/talk to me!" Great. I'm so happy for you?
I don't really get along with ESEs, at all, and this was not the worst ESE I've met O__o ESEs really do try to control the social arena, and fake it to make it. It's just very weird to me how they can just all of a sudden act like they are someone's best friend to attempt to get on their good side. Ever heard of subtlety? Guess not.
I tend to approach people much more delicately and slowly. Otherwise it seems very rushed and insincere. I think this is what SLIs prefer. Something not all up in your face, which is what
dominants tend to enjoy doing, and
dominants respond well to. SLIs and ILIs I think need someone who sort of "does their own thing" while engaging them from time to time as well... one with
and the other with
of course. Then, as time passes, the relationship becomes more comfortable and closer.
Another thing I'd like to add about ESEs (sorry, I just am really bitter about a few) ... is that the ones I've known, tend to really throw away relationships VERY easily. They have even SAID so! One girl admits this is a huge flaw of hers. She makes friends really quickly, then lets them go equally as fast. What is the point in that? Perhaps this is what SLIs are attempting to avoid! And this is why they are holding up a wall.