well I know that the kind im talking about are a certain subtype, I think it's the Ti subtype so they would be "closer" to an ESTp right? It's very distinct feeling they produce in me. It's like someone is taking an ice-cream scoop to my entrails.
Mimey, yes you're absolutely right you can be attracted to someone that's not compatible with you, just from common experience. Sometimes I wonder if such an attraction must always end up indefinitely in defeat/ashes. I have a question for you: is the ENTp you're "insanely attracted to" more attractive than the ESFjs you have met? I know it depends on the ESFj...