wow. Thanks Jessica. I like that last statement about just being who you are. I think its true that if an enfp wants to rush the relationship with the istp it wont work. So far as I can see they need a long time and lots of effort before they will trust someone. I have a friend that sends me so many mixed signals it drives me crazy, but I do value the relationship very much. I just dont always know what to make of it. Youve given me something to think about. Do you have other family members that are istp?