I've known a few enfp's (or at least I think i have) and many are turned off by my apparent 'lack of interest'. They seem to poke and prod to get me to open up but it just puts me off even more. Then when they comment on how cold they think i am, I become so self conscious that I'm not being 'good enough', that I put on an act. Sometimes I manage to get lost in who i really am and who I think i should be. I have issues when it comes to showing affection... I wish more were understanding and didn't take it so personally. That's why i think I'm more compatible with T types although I find them cold and distant, aha, the irony.