poor baby...I can really relate to what your saying. My SLI and I have been together for about 7 years on and off. We broke up three times, first spending a few months apart, next time a few weeks, then finally a year apart. Ever since we got back together the final time, things have been so much better than the first time we were together. Even by duality standards (in an article written about the steps of duality) it said that dual pairs after having a lot of time together will feel a need to be together again, like a magnet, over time. It was really amazing that we did experience it just like it was written! Just food for thought that distance just might make the heart grow fonder.
Anyway, the first round we were young and in love, but with more problems that was worth dealing with. I mean, since we were so young we had time to deal with these things--I don't know how we even got through it. There was a lot of cheating and yelling and insulting--so it really sounds like you and your SLI are suffering from poor communication. It's no easy task making a relationship work--there will be hard times and good times. You shouldn't think of this time that you have together with him "make or break" because usually that happens when you've gotten together and broken up so many times that there's gotta be a point where it is "make or break"...you guys are still a new couple...If you guys DO need to spend time apart or do end up breaking up, if it is meant to be it will happen. I PROMISE.
There were so many times that I questioned my relationship with him and if the pain was worth it. In the end I felt like it was and I don't know what it would have felt like for it to not have been worth it. I hope that my experiences help put you a little at ease. Just wanted you to know that I've been there. I feel you should try hard, but not at the expense of yourself and keep in mind that love is blind.
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@iannau From the tone of ur response I feel like you are aggravated by the way that I interpret the readings. I am in turn equally aggravated that you're trying to ask me to re-read articles like I didn't understand it the first time--even insinuating that I haven't read them at all. i don't know your life or what relationships you share with people, but when I talk about "true love" and duality I'm merely applying the theory to my life. I know maybe you find it more interesting to reiterate what was written by others who wrote information about this topic but in my life (having met many duals and having one in particular who holds a special place in my heart) the theory of duality in real life FEELS like real love to me. I don't think its an intellectual crime to talk about how this theory applies to me in real life.
besides...the way you make it sound of course an incomplete person cannot have anyone dual or not "complete" them...but i definitely feel as though my partner adds another spectrum to my life that I don't have on my own. Isn't that the whole point of duals? one is able to tickle the weaker function of the other and vice versa? That, to me, seems like some sort of completeness.
finally, isn't the whole point of studying these things so that we can use it to better our lives in addition to/as well as/both talking about it and analyzing it? jeeze.
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