The most stress free relation

[UDP]

Hey

This may go under "any relations", but also here. I would ask you to describe the person you get along with best, in terms of psychological comfort. What qualities do they have? What functions, apparently, do they have (if it applies).

Who were/are the people you can work with or do thing with, (aside from just spending fun time with), in the most stress free way? ((Note, not necessarily stress free as in, someone you sit on your butt doing nothing with. I mean, just the least amount of psychological irritation))

What are your thoughts on this?

[UDP]

real life examples would be great.

[Kristiina]

ummmm dual? Duh.


EDIT... ummm... real-life dual? does that count as an example?

[implied]

ummmm dual? Duh.

lol yes.

[Slacker]

Yeah, really. This seems like an obvious thing.

[UDP]

I mean, what qualities does the person you have the most stress free relationship with - what qualities to they have, and why are they soothing to you.

[Rubicon]

Hey

This may go under "any relations", but also here. I would ask you to describe the person you get along with best, in terms of psychological comfort. What qualities do they have? What functions, apparently, do they have (if it applies).

Who were/are the people you can work with or do thing with, (aside from just spending fun time with), in the most stress free way? ((Note, not necessarily stress free as in, someone you sit on your butt doing nothing with. I mean, just the least amount of psychological irritation))

What are your thoughts on this?

A thing I find comfortable is when the person I'm talking to is on the same wavelength as me - they're listening as well as comprehending on every level in the present so that they could finish my thoughts for me if they had to. The person is just completely receptive to what I'm saying at that moment and they don't let any preconceptions colour what they're hearing. I love that - it means to me that the person is really trying to understand me and get inside my head. I've experienced this with INFp, ENTp, sometimes ENFp. In my experience, INTjs appear do be doing this, but actually their mind is going a million miles an hour, making connections, dismissing this and that, retaining what they perceive the truth to be.

[Joy]

Activity.

Duality is most compatible for close, long term, serious relationships, but friendships with activity partners seem to just happen effortlessly, quickly, and smoothly. (Perhaps that has something to do with who my activity partner is though?)

[Jimbean]

for me, it is illusionary and relation of benefit with EIE.
Beta NF's

[meatburger]

Activity.

Duality is most compatible for close, long term, serious relationships, but friendships with activity partners seem to just happen effortlessly, quickly, and smoothly. (Perhaps that has something to do with who my activity partner is though?)

Thats exactly what ive found too

[zenbrat]

Activity is definately the most stress-free IntR but activity partners are unable to respond to each other's emotional issues. Activity partners kinda stand around asking, "umm, ok... so like, what do you need me to do??" Sure you might get a sympathetic stock response or a humorous distraction, but there is no real ability to support or console. The emotional worlds are foreign to each other - similar in some regards, but very different in others. That sort of understanding doesn't happen naturally between activity partners, as it does between dual partners.

[Joy]

I love your avatar.

Anyways, I agree that activity partners can't give you everything you need the way your dual can, but I haven't noticed the lack of emotional connectedness/compatibility. I more notice the everyday/practical problems that arise from temperament issues. The EP is too carefree for the EJ, the EJ is too uptight for the EP. The EJ doesn't help the EP relax, and the EP doesn't make the EJ relax. Relationships are processed differently (rational types seem to need more definition than irrational types), etc.

[Ezra]

Hey

This may go under "any relations", but also here. I would ask you to describe the person you get along with best, in terms of psychological comfort. What qualities do they have? What functions, apparently, do they have (if it applies).

Who were/are the people you can work with or do thing with, (aside from just spending fun time with), in the most stress free way? ((Note, not necessarily stress free as in, someone you sit on your butt doing nothing with. I mean, just the least amount of psychological irritation))

What are your thoughts on this?

Your dual, duh.