ISTp-ENFp duality and implicit perception of emotional needs

[Slacker]

Well, when my husband and I started going out, after the first few dates I honestly thought he didn't like me. He just didn't show much response to me at all. I was mystified. He still mystifies me sometimes - I'll think he's angry or upset or something and I'll ask him what's wrong and he'll say, "Nothing's wrong. Why would you think that?" But I don't know about the joyful thing at the end. Sometimes he will suddenly surprise me and show a lot of emotion but that isn't a really common thing, and it particularly wasn't when we had just started dating.

So she could be ISTp but it's hard to say from so little information.

[consentingadult]

It was kind of a strange date anyway: I'm webmaster of a social-networking community, one were not much is going on anymore, and one day she sends me a message asking about the inactivity on the forum. But she didn't start the message with that, instead, she asked me out of the blue if I had seen 'Das Leben der Anderen'. So I thought, why would anyone start a message to a stranger with an opening like that? Anyway, I felt she was fishing, so I asked her if she wanted to go together. Somehow I feel like I completely misunderstood her emotional inhibition and fucked up the date

[xyz]

I guess the "I thought you weren't inrested in me in the beggining" must be a type thing because I've gotten that myself as well. Um, I haven't met many IEE's but one big appeal is the breath of fresh air they can bring to the most mundane (to me) things.

[Creepy-Cyclops]

I guess the "I thought you weren't inrested in me in the beggining" must be a type thing because I've gotten that myself as well. Um, I haven't met many IEE's but one big appeal is the breathe of fresh air they can bring to the most mundane (to me) things.

This is very well put.

[applejacks]

Well, when my husband and I started going out, after the first few dates I honestly thought he didn't like me. He just didn't show much response to me at all. I was mystified. He still mystifies me sometimes - I'll think he's angry or upset or something and I'll ask him what's wrong and he'll say, "Nothing's wrong. Why would you think that?" But I don't know about the joyful thing at the end. Sometimes he will suddenly surprise me and show a lot of emotion but that isn't a really common thing, and it particularly wasn't when we had just started dating.

So she could be ISTp but it's hard to say from so little information.

I'm resurrecting an old post! My apologies, but I have to chime in because this is me and my husband in EVERY way!!

I'm fairly certain that I'm IEE (very much Ne leading, and always wanting to bond via sharing Ne and Introverted Ethics about ourselves, experiences, etc).

My husband.. I'm not entirely sure what he is, but this sounds very much like him. I would show up for a date dressed to the NINES. I'm talking hair done professionally, form fitting dress, high heels, tasteful perfume, turning heads as I walk to him... and he won't say a thing. Yet four days later, he might make a comment to me or to someone else that I was the hottest girl in the room. But somehow it never occurred to him at that time to tell me that I looked pretty. Nor did he show any emotion or reaction to me when he first saw me.

And yet, he'll cry at the end of the Dark Knight Rises, because it was done to such perfection.

I'm so confused, but it has me fascinated!