Help me out here, please

[Park]

I met a very attractive sales person in a car shop yesterday. She was very helpful and communicative and insisted to explain everything about the cars, even things I didn't ask about. She gave me some brochures and pricelists, explained paying options and what not and we even had a small off-topic chitchat. At the end I just thanked her very politely and exited the shop after saying goodbye (twice, lol). She didn't give me a personal business card or anything like that (probably forgot ) but she did seem to show some off-business interest and considering the fact that she was very pretty and good looking, I certainly wouldn't mind getting to know her better.

Now what I need from you is IDEAS! Ideas on how to approach and try to get in touch. Relationships are really not my strong side and I really need some assistance here. HELP?

[Expat]

I have to be cynical and suggest that she may well have just been acting as a saleswoman who knows she's pretty.

[Creepy-Cyclops]

To be honest with you dude, she's probably just being a good salesperson.

In saying that tho, you could always ask her out, but I think your chances might be better before you buy the car

[Enters Laughing]

Subtley ask her if she has a boyfriend\girlfriend. If she says 'no', then say 'So how about it?' If she says 'yes', then beg her to see reason. I can't imagine anything going wrong with this strategy.

[consentingadult]

We males are inclined to think that when a woman is nice to use, she probably also wants to make love. Like the others said, she probably used some Fe magic on you for sales purposes or was just being nice with no hidden agenda whatsoever.

That being said, you can't know for sure, so I would just give her a call. Don't make to much fuss about it, be authentic and yourself (I know, easier said than done), say something to the effect you enjoyed talking to her and ask her if she's interested to have a drink with you. The worst thing that can happen, is that she says "no". It is not likely that she will do that in a harsh way. And if she does, just accept that and look at it as a new experience.

You say that relationships are not your string side. Well, maybe you shouldn't worry too much about that and let her take care of that aspect. If what you say is true, don't be afraid to show that (but not talk about it too much though). Many women love guys who are not afraid to show their vulnerabilities!

Remember the words of Dutch lingerie-designer Marlies Dekkers: Your creativity is in your vulnerability!

Go for it, I say! Good luck!

[consentingadult]

P.S. I WOULDN'T ask her if she has a boyfriend: it's too obvious and the answer could be embarrassing to both of you. Just boldly ask her, this will leave her space to be creative herself and come up with an elegant 'no' in case she doesn't want to have a drink. However, in that case, also be prepared for the possibility that she will accept the invitation, even though she has a boy friend.

[cracka]

I'd say she was probably just doing her job, and seemingly doing it quite well. But, in the case that she would be interested in you, your best bet is to just call up there, ask for (insert chick's name here), and then tell her she was very helpful to you and that you'd like to buy her a cup of coffee or dinner to show your appreciation.
While I'd normally say to go there yourself and ask her out in person, this can easily be a situation where she was just doing her job and you may not want to put either of you in the awkward situation that could come up if you went there instead of calling. At least on the phone she'll be able to just say no and that she is with someone or just not interested without worrying about hurting your feelings. It's a lot easier to say "not interested" when you don't have to look the person in the eye.

Then again, think positively and maybe she'll say she'd really like that and give you her number. Which will leave you and her both all day.

[Park]

That being said, you can't know for sure, so I would just give her a call. Don't make to much fuss about it, be authentic and yourself (I know, easier said than done), say something to the effect you enjoyed talking to her and ask her if she's interested to have a drink with you. The worst thing that can happen, is that she says "no". It is not likely that she will do that in a harsh way. And if she does, just accept that and look at it as a new experience.

Well, thank you. I think I should try something along those lines.

P.S. I WOULDN'T ask her if she has a boyfriend: it's too obvious and the answer could be embarrassing to both of you.

Yeah, I wouldn't do that. I couldn't, even if I wanted to anyway.

[Park]

In saying that tho, you could always ask her out, but I think your chances might be better before you buy the car

The thing is, I don't have a particular interest in the cars being sold over there and I don't know how to enter the store again without the need to talk about the cars.

[Park]

I have to be cynical and suggest that she may well have just been acting as a saleswoman who knows she's pretty.

I know. I am completely aware that this is possible and may well be all there is. But the possibility that there is a mutual (or even one-sided) attraction, unsettles me and makes me want to investigate the potential for a relationship.

[xyz]

I have to be cynical and suggest that she may well have just been acting as a saleswoman who knows she's pretty.

And don't you just hate that? Call her, but don't fall for pretty eyes again!

[Creepy-Cyclops]

And don't you just hate that? Call her, but don't fall for pretty eyes again!

Us guys are so gullable..and we can't do anything about it!

Do you think if I met a girl and I told her about how much I digged socionics, that it would be a good ice breaker?

[Park]

Us guys are so gullable..and we can't do anything about it!

Do you think if I met a girl and I told her about how much I digged socionics, that it would be a good ice breaker?

Haha!
So true.

[xyz]

Us guys are so gullable..and we can't do anything about it!

ugh, don't remind me

[Park]

nice avatar, loki

[istpunk]

gay sex

[consentingadult]

Hey Winterpark, we haven't been hearing from you since Monday! You must be either making passionate love to her and have forgotten us completely, or devastated by the rejection and in jail for having killed her in rage. So what is it, we're dying to hear from you!

[xyz]

He probably choke fucked her.

[Creepy-Cyclops]

He probably choke fucked her.

That ain't the first time you spoke about that sort'a jizz oh I mean jazz ..

[Park]

Anyhow...

Nothing happened since Monday. I got caught up on some work and I haven't decided what to do about this yet. My horniness is slowly declining and it will probably cease in a couple of days (or weeks). I will miss another banging opportunity, of the many that will follow. I will remain pathetic and insecure for the rest of my life. That's unless I meet someone who 'll desire my cock badly enough to ask for it.

[consentingadult]

Anyhow...

Nothing happened since Monday. I got caught up on some work and I haven't decided what to do about this yet. My horniness is slowly declining and it will probably cease in a couple of days (or weeks). I will miss another banging opportunity, of the many that will follow. I will remain pathetic and insecure for the rest of my life. That's unless I meet someone who 'll desire my cock badly enough to ask for it.

Ahh... What's the big deal anyway? Women are so overrated nowadays. (this is called: taking care of cognitive dissonance)

By the way, I do not know your age, but from a biological/reproductive point of view, women start losing their value at age 35, and if they haven't found a steady relationship by the time they are 40, it becomes a pretty hopeless situation and they start acting desperate. They might not ask outright for your cock, but the way they present themselves on a platter actually comes pretty close. So I wouldn't worry, if I were you. At some stage, there'll be more women than you are willing to handle

I apologize upfront to the female members of this forum for the sexist, male-chauvinist nature of the above.