IEEs/ENFps how do you express your love and affection?

[night_owl]

I only know two ENFPs, but they both express love differently. One is very gushy, quick to praise, warm etc.

The other is certainly not quick to praise or say words of love and affection, but chooses to express how she feels through hugs, or touches, etc.

So yes, if there are any ENFPs on here, I would love to hear how you express love!

[meatburger]

helloo. To be honest this is a really hard question for me.

Over the years ive become slightly jaded so im not sure how i would react. Probally in a multitude of ways. Im a little reserved with gushy i lurve you sayings etc. Hopefully i stay away from those. I do like to compliment a great deal though, saying to my mum "your a bit special aren't you" etc. I tell my mates just through going out of my way to invite them and make sure i say proper hellos and goodbyes "see ya mate", "hey hows it been?"

Im not really a big fan of hugging etc. I would say to a girl i would just give her a lot of attention, listen to her and try to make jokes. Oh and massages i like giving them even more than recieving lol

[Creepy-Cyclops]

helloo. To be honest this is a really hard question for me.

Over the years ive become slightly jaded so im not sure how i would react. Probally in a multitude of ways. Im a little reserved with gushy i lurve you sayings etc. Hopefully i stay away from those.

Interesting that you say 'jaded' over time. Through the years I have found myself to become a little more open with my feelings.

I think that over time, as we mature we tend to gravitate to being a little like our duals. We are still our type, but a little more like the other. This I think is the balance observed in mature people, or those who have it 'together'

So its not so much you are becoming jaded I think, it is just that you are toneing it down a little to be more ISTp. The fact that I'm a bit more expressive than I used to be means I'm a little more ENFp.

[xyz]

Interesting that you say 'jaded' over time. Through the years I have found myself to become a little more open with my feelings.

I think that over time, as we mature we tend to gravitate to being a little like our duals. We are still our type, but a little more like the other. This I think is the balance observed in mature people, or those who have it 'together'

So its not so much you are becoming jaded I think, it is just that you are toneing it down a little to be more ISTp. The fact that I'm a bit more expressive than I used to be means I'm a little more ENFp.

I'm finding out that this is true for myself as well. I mean, I still don't like being forced to talk about feelings but I can at least struggle through conversations like that now. Maybe you're on to something.

[dudeins]

i tend to be very touchy with people in normal conversation and to those who are in my immediate family and best friends.

when it comes to love, i'm very reserved at first because i have a tough time with commitment. so generally, i act sort of distant at until i decide i like the person enough to want to be a little more intimate with them.

expressing how i feel is a completely different story. i do not like to talk about how i feel to people or how i feel concerning our relationship. if its a friend or family i will tell them only positive things that will not create any conflict. even if a boyfriend tells me he loves me or compliments me, reciprocating is impossible. usually i feel horrible that i have nothing to say, but i don't like to feel vulnerable or say something that i don't mean (or may change in a months time).

generally i internally feel a great deal about a person i love, i just don't say it like i should.

[meatburger]

when it comes to love, i'm very reserved at first because i have a tough time with commitment. so generally, i act sort of distant at until i decide i like the person enough to want to be a little more intimate with them.

expressing how i feel is a completely different story. i do not like to talk about how i feel to people or how i feel concerning our relationship. if its a friend or family i will tell them only positive things that will not create any conflict. even if a boyfriend tells me he loves me or compliments me, reciprocating is impossible. usually i feel horrible that i have nothing to say, but i don't like to feel vulnerable or say something that i don't mean (or may change in a months time).

generally i internally feel a great deal about a person i love, i just don't say it like i should.

OMG YES! I couldn't have said it better myself. Relationships scare the tar out of me. Basically because i fear i can see the end even before they begin. I hate how they are all lovey dovey at first and then shit slowly creeps in and i get bored. Then i have to dump or perhaps be dumped. Dumping someone is a horrible feeling i dont like it at all. Ive never been close to actually meeting a chick where i think its possible we could be really long term. I really want to turn that type of corner in my mind. If i could realise that a certian chick is right for me i would be very happy indeed.

[tiny_dancer]

I'm not gushy verbally, but I'm definitely affectionate.

Sorry, I'm tapped out of words today.

[Topaz]

I used to be very physically affectionate but now I am only that way with a very few people and only every now and then. I hate rejection and if I think someone would be put off I wont even attempt to be affectionate with them. I would never date or marry someone who did not like to be touched. I am not gushy at all but I like to tease people, share things with them and give them a lot of attention. I will praise the things they do or ask them to do things for me so I can express lots of gratitude. I like to make things so sometimes I will make something for someone or I might buy them an inexpensive gift that is unique, useful or beautiful. Something to say I was thinking of them but not overboard. If Im in love I try to hide it and only leak it out to the person I like. I dont like for people to think they have me wrapped around their finger. I like to seem contrary and independent even if inside I am smitten to the core. I dont like other people getting involved in my relationships or asking me about my feelings for other people. I hope that people will understand how I feel about them by how I treat them.

[Creepy-Cyclops]

There's something about ENFp's that makes me want to bed them.