so i spent the weekend with my cousin, who's clearly an LIE. we shared a room at a hotel and got along pretty well. anyway, here's what i noticed about her:
- she's incredibly quick at picking up on what people say, what people do, what they mean
- quite initiating and leading, would start everybody moving in a direction
- dominated conversations, got people's attention, and kept their attention even when other people would try to cut in and say something
- very factual, not very theoretical
- congenial, smiling face
although at times i felt a little jealous of how she was able to command attention, i only felt that way momentarily. i didn't feel a constantly growing sense of competition like i would with another static. more often, i felt admiration for how she could get the stuff above going. i kind of followed in her wake, influencing things here and there. we talked about work, about family, about having babies, about books, about marriage.
we got along well for almost four days.
anyway, it occured to me that perhaps quasi is not as bad a relation as we sometimes think. like the LIE's here (i'm thinking of Expat and Azeroffs) i like to listen to what she (and they) have to say, since they say it so clearly. i admire their leadership - it seems to come so effortlessly to them. overall, i found her sort of refreshing, since i don't have any friends like that.
so, do you think i got her type right? also, post your experiences with LIE's. and, comment about quasi relations if you are ILE.