Originally Posted by
Baby
The negative side of INFps is their tendencies toward indirectness - which can be fine if you're with someone willing to make sense of you and plays with you, but most of the time is just unhealthy and leads to pretty much guaranteeing avoidant behavior and assertiveness issues later on in life. If you've ever read Robert Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy, INFps tend to be the poster pathological "Nice Guys."
Ahhhh, I've actually been in quite a few situations where the said person was taking advantage of me, or I was letting them walk all over me, and couldn't get up the guts to say "back off". I fantasize about telling people off (hehe
I love those feel good stories where the quiet girl yells at everyone when she's had enough) but when push comes to shove, I don't. I worry about hurting people's feelings. If someone asks me straight out in all seriousness what I think of something and I really want to say "they're being a jerk!! arg" I get really avoidant and try to sidestep the issue altogether.
It's not out of a genuine love of others - I'm not that nice of a person - but I let people
think I am because I like hiding behind the "nice girl" reputation. I'm kinda paranoid that people will discover I'm not really a nice person, so I go to great lengths to cover that up...............once in while I get so close to someone that I trust them, I reveal how I really feel.................and scare them off by unloading my greivances, venting and bitching and general bitterness.
I don't know why everyone talks about how nice INFps are, I'm
not nice at all, I just don't show it. Does that make me a hypocrite?