On intimacy...obviously INTJs tend to take the long psychological approach...I must say the intimacy level I had with an ESFJ girlfriend was about 5x the intimacy I've ever had that I can remember, counting the relationships with family and friends and such. I wouldn't say the type(INTJ) has intimacy problems, but has to find someone to accept them(with INTX most of the time it's their dual).

On ESFJ guys, I've only known one, and not well. He considered the relationship he had with an ESFP girl extremely intimate, although he was completely being used and being called names behind his back, and avoided by the girl. Had arguments all of the time. I knew the girl better.