Well I think people should start reading one of the smilingeyes latest posts that sheds light on how relations really go.

Some few examples are that EXXP-Pe and IXXP-Je relations can be strained, whereas EXXP-Pe and IXXJ-Pe can be good, even if the types are supposedly conflictors. Ex that's why an ESTp-Se can get along better with an INTj-Ne than an INTj-Ti even if the relations would predict that the INTj-Ne and ESTp-Se would basically be conflictors.

Here it is:

http://the16types.info/forums/viewtopic.php?t=9033 <-- one of the last posts