type this quote

[Gilly]

Because he identifies with it strongly and he thought it was stereotypically INFj.

[xyz]

Because he identifies with it strongly and he thought it was stereotypically INFj.

[UDP]

The quote was made by the Dalai Lama.

[Gilly]

Unsurprisingly.

[UDP]

Nor are your own comments.

Although I am interested in that you see us as duals.
You apparently have no clue about what positive, easy going psychological relationships feel like.

Surprise me, Gilly, and jump off a very tall building.

[Gilly]

Duals don't have to get along. It's not a rule.

I am actually somewhat drawn to your constant resistance to my influence, to be honest. It makes you more interesting.

[Mediator Kam]

Thank you.

if what gilly said was false, where would allie and I be?

[UDP]

Nor are your own comments.

Although I am interested in that you see us as duals.
You apparently have no clue about what positive, easy going psychological relationships feel like.

Surprise me, Gilly, and jump off a very tall building.

Duals don't have to get along. It's not a rule.

I am actually somewhat drawn to your constant resistance to my influence, to be honest. It makes you more interesting.

Thank you.

if what gilly said was false, where would allie and I be?

Of course duals don't have to get along.

That is why I worded things the way I did.
It is like I have to constantly try to explain myself, in vain to Gilly. It's different from when I disagree with some people about things, like Fi types - there is some sort of common ground and desire to discuss things. But here it's just some sort of game, "oh, I know you say this, but you really mean this".

Gilly and I do not have a flowing psychological relationship where we understand each other easily. He is "apparently" not able to understand me and apparently doesn't want to. This is some sort of "game" to him.

I wouldn't be surprised if most of what he does is intentionally to annoy me, as he has done before. Even this comment -

I am actually somewhat drawn to your constant resistance to my influence, to be honest. It makes you more interesting.

I know I'm insanely appealing to some people, but you just have to get over it.


PS: I have a feeling that I should not give this post such a serious tone to it - it doesn't matter what I say or write.

[UDP]

I suppose I'm just a little angry at the whole "magical duality" thing.

There's all this information out there that points to the conclusion that duality somehow trumps every other relationship...that it makes all your problems go away....that you will either be best friends or passionate lovers....that butterflies and rainbows will flock behind you as you walk into the fiery sunset with joy brimming in your eyes.......and that's just wrong.

I agree with you.

Be angry at that, but not at me, because i'm not saying I expect to have a magical relationship with "my dual"